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lesa
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Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: parkersburg wv
Posts: 157
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Told him I was done..I said there is a song I dont care anymore ,,,and you are goiong to listen to ,me....my words...I want something more th en this,I want a man who loves me and Iam first not the drugs...who spends money on me sometimes ,not 1000 of dollars on drugs....that I have nothing else to give you ,you killed me inside...then he goes on about poor him..and I said I just do not care ....I want you out and going...I will not be moving with you ...I will have to see where my life is and I realy do not see it with you...then he took more money and left...3.88 all i have now..sad...I reather have that then him..I also told him sick of the lies and excuses...now when he comes home how can I see to it he leaves and not try to stay ...help ..I want to be free.....to be me ......lesa:
get it, give it, grow in it
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Calif coast
Posts: 3,167
You can become independent.
DONE, is a good place to be. That leaves you OPEN, to move forward
with your life.
While we may feel sad or compassion for the addict, we can't fix it and we
can't accept it. Nor can we live in the insanity or the front row to witness the
self-destruction.
It seems your are READY to take care of yourself, take charge of your life,
and move on. Where there is a will there is a way. Best wishes toward this goal.
DONE, is a good place to be. That leaves you OPEN, to move forward
with your life.
While we may feel sad or compassion for the addict, we can't fix it and we
can't accept it. Nor can we live in the insanity or the front row to witness the
self-destruction.
It seems your are READY to take care of yourself, take charge of your life,
and move on. Where there is a will there is a way. Best wishes toward this goal.
Attitude of Gratitude
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Dayton, Ohio
Posts: 2,305
Well said! That took an incredible amt. of courage on your part.
It's ironic . . . I have had two marriages fail that, for the most part, were due to my addiction and active using/drinking. Both of my husbands told me something pretty similar to what you said to your hubby. Funny . . . when I was on the other end, I thought they had some serious issues . . . now I see I was the one who had the problem.
Stick with us here, we'll be here with you through anything and everything.
God Bless,
Judy
It's ironic . . . I have had two marriages fail that, for the most part, were due to my addiction and active using/drinking. Both of my husbands told me something pretty similar to what you said to your hubby. Funny . . . when I was on the other end, I thought they had some serious issues . . . now I see I was the one who had the problem.
Stick with us here, we'll be here with you through anything and everything.
God Bless,
Judy
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 1,287
(((lesa)))
Eight years is a long time to live with the uncertainty and unpredictability of living with an addict. If yours was anything like mine, there have probably been too many ups and downs, too many disappointments. Nothing can change that, but you can now start to look towards a life without it.
As zombiewife said, it is a grieving process and will take time. But keep your "eye on the ball" --- don't forget what you do want --- you want to be you again -- free to live the life you deserve. You can and will get there!
Eight years is a long time to live with the uncertainty and unpredictability of living with an addict. If yours was anything like mine, there have probably been too many ups and downs, too many disappointments. Nothing can change that, but you can now start to look towards a life without it.
As zombiewife said, it is a grieving process and will take time. But keep your "eye on the ball" --- don't forget what you do want --- you want to be you again -- free to live the life you deserve. You can and will get there!
Nature Girl
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 60,328
Lesa, you may be closing the door, but the room was empty a long time ago.
It is normal to morn the loss of a relationship, even when it was toxic, because it's also the loss of your dreams of what might have been.
But I promise Lesa, that what will be will bring you dreams you never imagined.
We need to endure the endings in order to proceed with wonderful new beginnings.
I'm proud of you for taking care of yourself. Please keep yourself safe while you go through the transition and maybe get somebody to help you make him leave...it's just safer that way.
Big Hugs
It is normal to morn the loss of a relationship, even when it was toxic, because it's also the loss of your dreams of what might have been.
But I promise Lesa, that what will be will bring you dreams you never imagined.
We need to endure the endings in order to proceed with wonderful new beginnings.
I'm proud of you for taking care of yourself. Please keep yourself safe while you go through the transition and maybe get somebody to help you make him leave...it's just safer that way.
Big Hugs
lesa
Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: parkersburg wv
Posts: 157
he w ont leave ...he just thinks I should wait on him ...and he gets mad and say things like u leave with nothing...he just wont leave ....what can i do...another thing came said im done sure no money left...heard that before till the next time
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