Homecoming Fears
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Homecoming Fears
Tomorrow my husband comes home from his second detox in three and a half weeks and I have such mixed feelings. Please God, let him have hit bottom at last. Please give me the strength to take care of myself and him the strength to begin to heal and live a healthier, happier life. I feel so lost right now. I keep repeating to myself - serenity, courage and wisdom - but the tears keep falling. How do you start over again? How can I watch him leave everyday and not wonder if this is going to happen again? I don't care how much serendity you have, you can't help but worry about the health and safety of someone that you love.
I may not be ready for him to come home but home he is coming and I will deal with it - somehow. Any advice on dealing with this type of homecoming? Should I leave it up to him to discuss what he wants to discuss? He starts intensive outpatient counselling on Monday night. Should I just let things alone until after he has some professional help under his belt? I start counselling of my own on Tuesday which I know will help me. Any words of wisdom will be greatly appreciated.
I may not be ready for him to come home but home he is coming and I will deal with it - somehow. Any advice on dealing with this type of homecoming? Should I leave it up to him to discuss what he wants to discuss? He starts intensive outpatient counselling on Monday night. Should I just let things alone until after he has some professional help under his belt? I start counselling of my own on Tuesday which I know will help me. Any words of wisdom will be greatly appreciated.
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Jojo
I don't pray much but will say a prayer for you and your husband. Hopefully he has the strength and determination to continue with his recovery.
Stay strong yourself too! Try not to obsess about him right now. I know it's really difficult. I have been there!!!! Think about yourself right now and what you need to do to make yourself feel good.
Good luck to you both!
NoDoubt
I don't pray much but will say a prayer for you and your husband. Hopefully he has the strength and determination to continue with his recovery.
Stay strong yourself too! Try not to obsess about him right now. I know it's really difficult. I have been there!!!! Think about yourself right now and what you need to do to make yourself feel good.
Good luck to you both!
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(((Jojo)))
I'm right there feeling what your feeling
many of my fears happened but even more didn't
happen. There is nothing you can do or say to change
the things you cannot.
Keep your faith believe your HP has a plan for your life
and your husband's, there is a reason and a purpose
and not everything do we see or understand.
Keep your hope and live in the today.
love
liddy
I'm right there feeling what your feeling
many of my fears happened but even more didn't
happen. There is nothing you can do or say to change
the things you cannot.
Keep your faith believe your HP has a plan for your life
and your husband's, there is a reason and a purpose
and not everything do we see or understand.
Keep your hope and live in the today.
love
liddy
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Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers - they really do help. I seldom discuss this with friends or family so it is really nice to be able to talk to people who understand. I'll keep you posted.
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