butterfly5

Hello everyone...I am new here, and so thankful I have found you. I have been reading posts, and relating to so much of it. I am living with an alcoholic, who is in denial, and drinks nightly to "releive his emotional pain". He drinks very heavily....there is just so much to say, but I don't want to go on and on. I have come to a point where I really resent him, and his disease. I am trying to detach, but there are times I want to grab my kids and run....but then I think "why should I leave my home and security, because of his problems?" He used to be such a kind and sensitive man, but now, he rarely even speaks, although he does tell me often how much he loves me....

I'm just looking for some support, and poeple to talk to, who understand...

Thanks for listening.

Barbara52

Welcome butterfly. You have found a great place for support and information. Keep posting and reading!

Kindeyes

Welcome Butterfly. I'm glad you found SR. Has he tried counseling to help understand and relieve his emotional pain? Self medication only delays and magnifies the pain eventually. I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this dreadful disease. It can take a wonderful kind person and turn them into someone you don't know.

Keep reading. Keeping coming here. Think about going to Alanon or counseling for yourself.

gentle hugs

thisisnotmylife

Butterfly- You are not alone. Even though my husband has been in therapy and off the drugs I still want to take the kids and run somedays. No matter how far we run the problems never go away.
Hang in there and keep talking!

kermit

Welcome, this is a great place... post all you need to, you are sure to get the support you need.

butterfly5

Thank you all for your kind replys. Kindeyes, no he refuses counseling, saying that he doesn't beleive in it. You are so right on about him turning into someone I just don't know anymore. I feel like I have lost my best friend, and I'm so lonely for him, and not matter how I try ot explain it to him, he just doesn't get it. He knows that I am unhappy, yet cannot comfort or be there for me anymore.

I'm angry and sadthat he gave me such a wonderful, loving relationship for 5 years, and then took it away over the last 2 years. Does that make sense?

SugarLily

Hi Butterfly5

Welcome. I'm sure you will find SR as helpful as I have.

What I've found through this board is a new way of looking at things, to be able to think of myself for once.

There is always someone here with amazing advice and first hand experience. Something I didn't get from those around me as they hadn't lived with an A.

Keep posting x

bookwyrm

It makes perfect sense! This site is amazing. Have you read some of the stickies? They had me crying my eyes out...but they have really good advice and food for thought in them.

Can I recommend the book 'Co dependent no more' by Melody Beattie? It was really hard for me to read but I'm on my second read through and learning so much.

Take care...

Lilyflower

Hello Butterfly5!

Welcome to SR, I'm glad you are here. Have a read through the stickies at the top of the forum, I rate them as superb and eye opening! Keep reading/posting, someone is always here when you are,

Love and hugs to you

Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx