Excited, hopeful and a little scared
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Excited, hopeful and a little scared
It seems that there have been a lot of threads lately about "us" and keeping the focus on ourselves. I have struggled with doing that, but something great came out of it besides growing emotionally on my own away from my xabf.
I have been looking for a new job for a year. I would look on and off, get discouraged, focus on my xabf, then stop looking when things were really bad with him or for him.
After cutting off phone contact with him and not being involved with his daily drama, things changed. I would leave work (however late) and come home to send out resumes. I did this without fail each week. I got an interview at a firm that really seemed to fit what I was looking for. It went well and the partners seemed like they would be wonderful mentors. I got an offer. I accepted yesterday and put in my resignation today. I am very nervous because I will be taking on a larger role in my cases, but ready for the challenge as this will push me forward in my career.
The point of this is that I found it interesting that as soon as I REALLY put the focus on myself and put him in the back of my mind for a while, it took very little time to get what I have been pounding my head against the wall for, which is a position I could grow in and learn from.
The challenge now will be to remain detached enough from him to focus on my new position. I'm worried, but now I know good things happen when I put me first.
I have been looking for a new job for a year. I would look on and off, get discouraged, focus on my xabf, then stop looking when things were really bad with him or for him.
After cutting off phone contact with him and not being involved with his daily drama, things changed. I would leave work (however late) and come home to send out resumes. I did this without fail each week. I got an interview at a firm that really seemed to fit what I was looking for. It went well and the partners seemed like they would be wonderful mentors. I got an offer. I accepted yesterday and put in my resignation today. I am very nervous because I will be taking on a larger role in my cases, but ready for the challenge as this will push me forward in my career.
The point of this is that I found it interesting that as soon as I REALLY put the focus on myself and put him in the back of my mind for a while, it took very little time to get what I have been pounding my head against the wall for, which is a position I could grow in and learn from.
The challenge now will be to remain detached enough from him to focus on my new position. I'm worried, but now I know good things happen when I put me first.
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Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Johannesburg South Africa
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I am really happy for you! I think if you really want something and you do everything to get there, it will happen and you will be succesful. From what I have read, you seem to be a great person who can succeed, look how far you have already come in your own recovery!
And also things happen for a reason, you don't always know why immediately but will find out later.
Good things and changes bring with it more good things and more changes!
Good luck for your new job and be all that you can be!
And also things happen for a reason, you don't always know why immediately but will find out later.
Good things and changes bring with it more good things and more changes!
Good luck for your new job and be all that you can be!
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