splendra

Yea you... get over yourself.
Accept the past. Live for today.
If you are wondering what you need to do in recovery here are some suggestions from someone who has:

*Be grateful for your sobriety. For an attitude of gratitude will open doors and, the energy frequency flooding your being will heal you.

*Look for the opportunity to bring balance to your relationships.
You know what you did.
Assure the loved ones that you have hurt,
that you know you have hurt them. That does not mean kiss patoot either it means you want to change and have the action to back it up.

*Make your actions say to your S/O's that you are not determined to hurt them again and again. If you can't do this, do everyone a favor and get away from them.

*Be bold when it comes to tracking down your own lies and gentle when you are on the verge of judging another. For our brothers and sisters truly do hold a mirror up to ourselves.

*Pay yourself back the time and money you have lost and you will also be able to pay your bills and forfil your obligations to others and you will be someone that you like.

That is of course if you want a softer gentler way to get clean. Some people are found to have mental disorders either being masked by the active use /or uncovered after becoming clean or both. Some peoples brains balance out and are able to move past living life as an addict/alcoholic.

Remember you are the one responsible for your choices. Nobody can make you stay clean or make you choose your drug of choice. so get over yourself...

caitlin666

okies splendra

1is2Many

Lost me at "You".

stone

I like it!

At 6 months sober I was still blaming my parents for what they did to me...this at age 39.

Yea, some of it was bad but at some point we have to take responsibility for our own lives.

The past is gone...yes it does have an influence but I somehow stopped those old tapes playing (most of the time).

Also, I have begun to forgive myself, it is like I hated myself, judged myself harsher than I ever would another person.

I agree with all the other points too.

Rella927

Splendra awesome post!

Stoney-awesome post! Funny I too at age 37 (2 years ago) was blaming my parents for everything they did or rather how they raised me-Today I'm grateful that I know they did the best they could with the hand they were dealt!

And my counselor taught me to "stop playing those old tapes" which was a hard thing to do!

Thanks Splendra! (Even the codies can relate to this post!)

Mattcake

Thanks for a great post Loved it!

M

Dee74

this should be a sticky
thanks Splendra

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splendra

I would like to edit this part of the post to read:

If you are wondering what you can do about your recovery here are some suggestions from someone who has been clean from drugs and alcohol for 22 years:

Thank you for reading my post. I welcome all comments even ones that others may not think are considered positive because I believe I can grow from them one and all and I hope you can too.
I did not get clean thru the 12 steps. I sought medical help thru diet changes, chiropractic care, counseling, and acupuncture. Thru these therapies I got in touch with the part of me that wanted to be clean and live well.

These are things that I have said to myself so when I say you I am referring to what I have said to myself. I realize the value of "I" statements and that saying you
may put some on the defensive. I call myself you when I am counseling myself most of the time. I am sharing something that has helped me and if you can find something in this post that helps you I am so very thankful.

nogard

Fantastic your drug free splendra

least

I am curious. What was the acupuncture for? What problem does it address? Thanks.

mle-sober

Well, more power to you!

I read and post here because it helps me keep the very most important part of what I'm doing right now with my life front and center. (That would be getting and staying sober for the first time ever - I'm 39) I am in AA and do find it substantially and amazingly helpful. In so many ways. It is great to hear that there are others who've sought and found sobriety in other ways also. It makes things more hopeful for all of us.

I'm glad you posted your rather out-front and not-apologizing post. I was happy to read it.

And I learned from it. So thank you.

splendra

I think whatever works for you to stay clean and have a life is great!

I had acupuncture treatments that addressed my addiction with was done to the ear. Also, needles to other parts of my body to help balance out my blood sugar levels and to treat my allergies.

splendra

We have to watch our thoughts if we are to get any real grip on what shapes our own existence for it is our thoughts that create our reality. Anything can become a reality if we put enough thought behind it.

splendra

bumpity bump bump

nogard

lol want some more comment?

Ok I am aving a lovely day. Hows dat?

splendra

lol and which step is that?

nogard

I think thats called me being silly (playful)

splendra

I suppose that is something that happens when one gets over ones self right ((((nogard)))?

tangerine13

Hey splendra, wonderful post, I want all of those things in time. A couselor once told me at the beginning of recovery, its like having to parent yourself all over again, and I feel I really need that!

Thanks

adore79

Argh, getting over it has to be the hardest thing to do in life. So Fing hard...