Good News!
mle-sober
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: Golden, CO
Posts: 1,243
Good News!
Every day, I've prayed for my husband to forgive me for lying to him while I was drinking. He was so angry. In 58 days, nothing I did could convince him that my lying was confined to my drinking (no affairs, etc). And he had told me that I was a stranger to him and he didn't know if he could stay married to me. I tried to stay on course with my program and I tried to give him time but I was always in pain from how much I had hurt him and how much this affected him.
He went to church today with our sons and came back a very different man. He told me that the serman had been about forgiveness and that it had gotten him thinking. And then he said, with complete sincerity, "I don't want to abandon you in your time of need. I forgive you. I love you." And he hugged me!
We've talked more and obviously have a lot to work through. But I am so grateful that we are where we are now. I have so much more hope for the future.
He went to church today with our sons and came back a very different man. He told me that the serman had been about forgiveness and that it had gotten him thinking. And then he said, with complete sincerity, "I don't want to abandon you in your time of need. I forgive you. I love you." And he hugged me!
We've talked more and obviously have a lot to work through. But I am so grateful that we are where we are now. I have so much more hope for the future.
Don't get undies in a bunch
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: South Shore MA
Posts: 7,120
I know the joy you must be feeling or would it be better to say the relief from what seemed like huge burden you were carrying around?
We gave away our trust and by the love that each of our spouse has shown by their forgiveness, we can gain back that trust once again.
Now that I have started gaining it back...I don't ever want to give I away again.
I am so happy for you.
We gave away our trust and by the love that each of our spouse has shown by their forgiveness, we can gain back that trust once again.
Now that I have started gaining it back...I don't ever want to give I away again.
I am so happy for you.
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Dayton, Ohio
Posts: 2,305
I'm very happy for you.
I know for me, when my Family started to forgive, even though they may never be able to forget, it was such a Blessing.
I always have to remember that it took a long time for those we love to feel the mistrust and doubt, so it's definately going to take some time to earn back their trust and faith that we are now doing the right thing.
God Bless
Judy
I know for me, when my Family started to forgive, even though they may never be able to forget, it was such a Blessing.
I always have to remember that it took a long time for those we love to feel the mistrust and doubt, so it's definately going to take some time to earn back their trust and faith that we are now doing the right thing.
God Bless
Judy
. . .SIST, ITS ALL ABOUT FAITH,&
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,781
I'm glad your husband has forgiven you. Have you forgiven yourself? THat's the hardest part for me - to let go of my resentment toward myself, cause I'm a lot harder on myself than anyone else could ever be. I'm in a "poisonous relationship" with myself, maybe that's why I've relapsed so much... Let's work on self-forgiveness together, ok?:ghug3
Home is the International Forgiveness Institute. Good website with some very thought provoking ideas.
Home is the International Forgiveness Institute. Good website with some very thought provoking ideas.
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