ImJulie

A friend in AA told me this, and every morning I try to remind myself of these words and questions.
He said, we all wake up *feeling* something. We go through our day and our *feelings* change based on how the day goes.
But feeling and being are 2 different things.
Just because I *feel* angry doesnt mean I have to act and behave angry. Just because I feel crappy doesnt mean I have to act crappy.
I have a choice today.......I can "be" and act what I want to become.
I dont mean stuff my feelings, ignore them or fancy them up.
I simply mean that other people dont deserve my crud. I dont deserve to walk around carrying that crud all day.
So now, when I check in with myself from time to time throughout the day, I dont ask myself how I am feeling.....I ask myself how I am being.
:ghug

Anna

I think learning that feelings are just feelings is a big step in recovery. My feelings used to control me completely. I felt like I was at the whim of my emotions and I couldn't do anything about it. I have learned since then, that the feelings are not 'me'. I am the being behind the feelings.