huckster

i found in the bathroom i small string rope , about the size you would tie around your arm to shoot up.it was cut from a sweatshirt hoodie,
i left it there in the morning after my AS went to work it was gone , do i confront? do i leave alone.. i relieze he will lie most likley, he has been in recovery for 8 motns or so we thought he is under a dr 's care on suboxe, but am i letting the suboxone giving me false security?
please give me your advice i didnt sleep last night wondering should i shoulnt i confront?

Impurrfect

(((huckster)))

If you confront him and he lies, what then? I'm an RA (recovering addict) and I know most of the people on here can trust their gut feelings...what is your gut telling you?

If he is abusing, his actions will tell on him sooner or later. I'm not saying don't confront him, but if he is using, he will most likely get defensive or lie. You need to do whatever you're comfortable with. Take care of YOU and make sure any boundaries you set, you are willing to back up.

Keep posting and reading...there are a lot of wonderful people here with some great ES&H (experience, strength and hope).

Hugs and prayers!

Amy

hello-kitty

Yep. He will lie. That's what addicts do. You need to trust your gut.

Spiritual Seeker

Reality is what it is.
Did you establish rules for your son to live in your home?
What are the conseq. for non-compliance?
So sorry that your hope is being crushed once again.

Done_With_It

No advice just hugs. I'm sorry your going through this.. :praying

devastated

I agree with the rest, and that is, when confronted he will lie! They tell you exactly what you want to hear.

Impurrfect knows better than us as she has been there.

Then there's me, after 30+ years I still found myself asking questions like "are you using?" Duh? Like he is going to say "YES!"

I don't know what boundaries you agreed upon, but I imagine sooner or later you're going to have to enforce them....if for nothing else, but your own sanity.

Prayers coming your way

Hugs, Devastated

marle

I agree with the rest and like Dev I have asked even though my brain was saying "DUH!" at the same time. We humans sure do have a problem trusting our guts, we would never survive in the wild. Trust your gut, If it walks like a duck, looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it IS a duck. Sorry because I know that this is painful. Hugs, Marle

Wascally Wabbit

Relapse is part of recovery.
Is he hiding track marks?

I have to agree with Spiritual. There has to be a line drawn as to how much you allow in your home. Plus, if the cops ever raid your home and find anything, you could be arrested too.

caileesnana

sorry, i know it hurts like hell.
susan

grateful2b

Huckster :ghug3 , I am so sorry, ... trust your gut....

sleepygoat

My experience with addicts is that truth ALWAYS comes out sooner or later, and usually sooner. don't do anything. If he's using again, it will become obvious.