Singing the Blues
Pretzel
You are in a good place. People here are quite familiar with what you describe. We are all at different points of recovery. You cannot surprise anyone, so let it go, let it flow.
With help, you can go from "trying to change" to "changing" in a short time. So, you got something to lose?
warrens
You are in a good place. People here are quite familiar with what you describe. We are all at different points of recovery. You cannot surprise anyone, so let it go, let it flow.
With help, you can go from "trying to change" to "changing" in a short time. So, you got something to lose?
warrens
Two of the things that used to keep me stuck in the ditch were guilt and shame.
I finally got sobriety, then recovery, and then healing....for me and for those I had hurt.
It took a while to get sick, it will take a while to get better.
Baby steps and lighten up on yourself.
Seren
I finally got sobriety, then recovery, and then healing....for me and for those I had hurt.
It took a while to get sick, it will take a while to get better.
Baby steps and lighten up on yourself.
Seren
Last edited by lovingseren; 03-02-2008 at 05:51 PM.
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Absolutely, this is a good place. Try making a posting a list (without names) of your screw-ups. Heck, I got a few screw-ups, not as many as others, but there's one rather big one - called productivity where I have lost COUNTLESS valuable hours of work! Which translates to rather huge $$$. That loss, has affected my family and I horribly for the last 3 years - damn.
Anyway, getting it out is like step 1 to get some basic solace, and give you some room to breathe and relax. Nobody likes what this kind of **** behavior has done to us and those we love and care about.
Anyway, getting it out is like step 1 to get some basic solace, and give you some room to breathe and relax. Nobody likes what this kind of **** behavior has done to us and those we love and care about.
Welcome to SR pretzel, you'll find lots of support here so please stick around. Work on yourself, then concentrate on making ammends with whomever you think you might have hurt.
Seren I really like your posts. Thanks. Think you're right. I, for one, tend to forget that it took me several years to dig myself into this hole, so I can't expect to magically feel better overnight. Although I am praying for a miracle, lol.
Matt
Seren I really like your posts. Thanks. Think you're right. I, for one, tend to forget that it took me several years to dig myself into this hole, so I can't expect to magically feel better overnight. Although I am praying for a miracle, lol.
Matt
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Thanks warren. I don't know what to say though. I have drank too much for too long. I have let down members of my family over and over again. They are tired of me so here I sit alone. Only this time I am sober. I look around at the destruction I have created and am not sure I want to stay sober.
Matt is right, if we keep ourselves stuck in our "stuff", then we stay drinking.
I have seen many, myself included, who have gone on to a healthy and fulfilling new life, they have made peace with those they hurt, and they have shown their sorrow and regret by "getting and staying sober'........that meant so much to my children, family and friends.
Words are cheap, actions speak a lot louder.
Seren
I have seen many, myself included, who have gone on to a healthy and fulfilling new life, they have made peace with those they hurt, and they have shown their sorrow and regret by "getting and staying sober'........that meant so much to my children, family and friends.
Words are cheap, actions speak a lot louder.
Seren
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I look around at the destruction I have created and am not sure I want to stay sober.
The only problem is, your statement gives you an excuse to drink again. As long as your mind keeps going through that level of self-doubt, self-pity, pete and repeat, your resistance to the behavior will always be weak. You are thinking along the lines of re-enabling yourself to drink and drink and drink. Stop thinking like that.
Even if you're one step from being the drunk living in the alleyway with no place to live, nothing to eat, and no job, there is always something to rebuild from. It may not be what you had, but it'll still be you.
Give living without that stuff a try and see what happens. You'll certainly be thinking more clearly.
Well Pretzel
Sure got yourself in a "twist" by comin' on here didn't Ya?
Bet you didn't expect so many replies in minutes. From people who aren't exactly inexperienced in this stuff.
Caution: Something I learned rather quick about this "community." It is a pretty "huggy" and safe place. But one thing you will get "called on" quick is self pity., as it pretty much prevents discussion or moving out of the tiny circle you have painted yourself.
But then, none of us has been there. It may be hard for us to understand <grin>.
But, the good thing about this place is that you have to try to find it. I did. It didn't fall from the sky. I had to find it, register, post, read, write. What a hassle, eh?
But it means you have put a tippy toe out of that circle. Good for you.
And Welcome Again!
warrens
Sure got yourself in a "twist" by comin' on here didn't Ya?
Bet you didn't expect so many replies in minutes. From people who aren't exactly inexperienced in this stuff.
Caution: Something I learned rather quick about this "community." It is a pretty "huggy" and safe place. But one thing you will get "called on" quick is self pity., as it pretty much prevents discussion or moving out of the tiny circle you have painted yourself.
But then, none of us has been there. It may be hard for us to understand <grin>.
But, the good thing about this place is that you have to try to find it. I did. It didn't fall from the sky. I had to find it, register, post, read, write. What a hassle, eh?
But it means you have put a tippy toe out of that circle. Good for you.
And Welcome Again!
warrens
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I do apreciate the responses. You people seem to care about each other, I'm happy for you.
I don't know if I'm feeling self pity, guilt or shame. I'm not really sure what I feel anymore if anything. I don't seem to be able to relate to people or visa versa. I don't understand why not. My brain just isn't wired the same way. It's ok I'm used to it, I just wish I could somehow make it up to the people who didn't deserve what I gave them in life. Perhaps time will make the difference. For now I'm just down. I am not drinking tonight and I'm not really sure why. I guess I'm tired of me on alcohol too.
Thank you for listening.
I don't know if I'm feeling self pity, guilt or shame. I'm not really sure what I feel anymore if anything. I don't seem to be able to relate to people or visa versa. I don't understand why not. My brain just isn't wired the same way. It's ok I'm used to it, I just wish I could somehow make it up to the people who didn't deserve what I gave them in life. Perhaps time will make the difference. For now I'm just down. I am not drinking tonight and I'm not really sure why. I guess I'm tired of me on alcohol too.
Thank you for listening.
Take care,
Matt
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