they dont get it
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they dont get it
Returned from the divorce attorneys office today. My STBXAH cannot understand why I will not agree to "joint physical custody" of the kids. Ummmm hellllooooooo maybe because you are an alcoholic. He has not drank in 6 months but only goes to AA once a month and sees a counselor every other week.
This is the first time in 15 years that he has not drank for 6 months. Otherwise it was everyday. I do not mean to be pessimistic but........
I know that I need to do what is best for the kids. I do not have a problem with Joint Physical Custody someday when he has embraced sobriety and has at least one year under his belt. Until then I need to keep fighting for what is best for my kids. This is really hard and I am getting so tired. God give me the strength.
This is the first time in 15 years that he has not drank for 6 months. Otherwise it was everyday. I do not mean to be pessimistic but........
I know that I need to do what is best for the kids. I do not have a problem with Joint Physical Custody someday when he has embraced sobriety and has at least one year under his belt. Until then I need to keep fighting for what is best for my kids. This is really hard and I am getting so tired. God give me the strength.
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You can indeed do this! I know for me, doing something for my kids, taking action to make sure they had the best (of whatever) was always something I could do even when I couldn't do what I needed to do for myself. Just keep remembering that youare acting to protect them and provide them with the best lfie possible and you will find the strength you need.
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Many of you are dealing with children and marriages. Mine was a 2 year relationship that within literally about 7 days became a battlefield and an understanding on my part of what I think caused it, alcohol. But wow, when I read these posts I hear all of you saying the same things I have been asking myself for 2 years even though she wasn't drinking. Why doesn't she understand this? This isn't difficult. Why is she so seflish? Why can I see this as clear as day and she makes it more difficult to hide the truth? I guess I just thought it was because we were such different people, but I don't think that was the case. I am exhusted.
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Originally Posted by daisies 
Until then I need to keep fighting for what is best for my kids. This is really hard and I am getting so tired. God give me the strength.
It will get better.
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