Language of Letting Go - February 20
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Language of Letting Go - February 20
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Setting Our Own Course
We are powerless over other people's expectations of us. We cannot control what others want, what they expect, or what they want us to do and be.
We can control how we respond to other people's expectations.
During the course of any day, people may make demands on our time, talents, energy, money, and emotions. We do not have to say yes to every request. We do not have to feel guilty if we say no. And we do not have to allow the barrage of demands to control the course of our life.
We do not have to spend our life reacting to others and to the course they would prefer we took with our life.
We can set boundaries, firm limits on how far we shall go with others. We can trust and listen to ourselves. We can set goals and direction for our life. We can place value on ourselves.
We can own our power with people.
Buy some time. Think about what you want. Consider how responding to another's needs will affect the course of your life. We live or own life by not letting other people, their expectations, and their demands control the course of our life. We can let them have their demands and expectations; we can allow them to have their feelings. We can own our power to choose the path that is right for us.
Today, God, help me own my power by detaching and peacefully choosing the course of action that is right for me. Help me know I can detach from the expectations and wants of others. Help me stop pleasing other people and start pleasing myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Setting Our Own Course
We are powerless over other people's expectations of us. We cannot control what others want, what they expect, or what they want us to do and be.
We can control how we respond to other people's expectations.
During the course of any day, people may make demands on our time, talents, energy, money, and emotions. We do not have to say yes to every request. We do not have to feel guilty if we say no. And we do not have to allow the barrage of demands to control the course of our life.
We do not have to spend our life reacting to others and to the course they would prefer we took with our life.
We can set boundaries, firm limits on how far we shall go with others. We can trust and listen to ourselves. We can set goals and direction for our life. We can place value on ourselves.
We can own our power with people.
Buy some time. Think about what you want. Consider how responding to another's needs will affect the course of your life. We live or own life by not letting other people, their expectations, and their demands control the course of our life. We can let them have their demands and expectations; we can allow them to have their feelings. We can own our power to choose the path that is right for us.
Today, God, help me own my power by detaching and peacefully choosing the course of action that is right for me. Help me know I can detach from the expectations and wants of others. Help me stop pleasing other people and start pleasing myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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Ann,
Thanks for this post. I really needed to hear this today. My RAH attempts to define the standards and behaviors that are my life. When what I want and who I am conflicts with his desires he brings out the judgements (example: is it just ignorance or are you lazy?). Those are the big guns that are used to attempt to control my actions. Where I am seeking to grow is by stepping away from the barrage. I am going to get better about simply walking away from him when he starts this crap. I am so tired of it all - I just want the relationship to be gone. It's verbal and emotional abuse to be treated like this...I am very aware of that. RAH has begun to address that issue but still, when it comes down to something he wants the old pattern pops right back up. God, I hate all of this so much. I had no idea that it was going to be this difficult.
Thank you though for this reminder. I trust my HP that the path through this will be shown to me. I am no longer attached to any outcomes...I just now need to do what I need to do to take care of myself.
Thanks - Donna
Thanks for this post. I really needed to hear this today. My RAH attempts to define the standards and behaviors that are my life. When what I want and who I am conflicts with his desires he brings out the judgements (example: is it just ignorance or are you lazy?). Those are the big guns that are used to attempt to control my actions. Where I am seeking to grow is by stepping away from the barrage. I am going to get better about simply walking away from him when he starts this crap. I am so tired of it all - I just want the relationship to be gone. It's verbal and emotional abuse to be treated like this...I am very aware of that. RAH has begun to address that issue but still, when it comes down to something he wants the old pattern pops right back up. God, I hate all of this so much. I had no idea that it was going to be this difficult.
Thank you though for this reminder. I trust my HP that the path through this will be shown to me. I am no longer attached to any outcomes...I just now need to do what I need to do to take care of myself.
Thanks - Donna
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