Am I wrong in feeling this
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Am I wrong in feeling this
:wtf2My AH has not worked for 12 months which means no money for child support.He had more help in his addiction than most people will ever have, rehab 5 times mental wards 7 times numerous AA contacts so many people have reached out to help him. He always goes back to alcohol. I t has been 17 years of this. So when he was missing for 2 months I took on my POA and sold our home and some of his possesions. I was not going to let my home go into foreclosure. Everything I did was legal and I needed money to support our children. Well he's back and very angry. How could I sell his things while he was away, Noone knew if he was dead or alive and I had decisions to make.His family is now angry with me also,after all the HELL WE WENT THROUGH I AM THE BAD GUY. He told me I am going to jail for selling his things. Yeah whatever...... I hate him and his family, PLEASE YOU GUYS HELP ME THROUGH THIS!!!!!
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Hello, will be honest i dont really know what to say apart from i think i would of done the same. you have children to think about and they come first. its not my place to give advice but i will say keep strong, my heart goes out to you and if i can help in any way i will do. xx christine xx
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I would have done the same... he is just talking out his behind. he is the one who messed up.... you know that - he knows that.. he just needs to balme anyone but him
standard practice right???
hang in there - keep strong
shakarris
ps -IMHO = his family has no business even talking about this = did they offer up lots of dollars while he was mia to help out you and the kids. Tell them to step back and outta your way
standard practice right???
hang in there - keep strong
shakarris
ps -IMHO = his family has no business even talking about this = did they offer up lots of dollars while he was mia to help out you and the kids. Tell them to step back and outta your way
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I have done the same thing to my ex-AH and he was a jerk about the stuff I sold including his car..lol His family I told to go jump off a bridge when they started in on the crap about how I have done him wrong...that was just laughable!
When we went before to mediate I went in with all kinds of proof of his drinking/drugging taking off leaving me and the kids...I got custody, he was order to pay support, I got everything because he didn't even bother to show up...was at his brothers with a hangover...oh well it has now been 2 years since I have seen him and it was hard at first but has gotten better in time...well I didn't mean to write a journal but I wanted to tell you that "You can do it you can make it through I know that you can because I did!"
When we went before to mediate I went in with all kinds of proof of his drinking/drugging taking off leaving me and the kids...I got custody, he was order to pay support, I got everything because he didn't even bother to show up...was at his brothers with a hangover...oh well it has now been 2 years since I have seen him and it was hard at first but has gotten better in time...well I didn't mean to write a journal but I wanted to tell you that "You can do it you can make it through I know that you can because I did!"
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You did what you did to support youeself and your children. He onthe other hand deserted you all. Don't listen to his garbage 'cause that's all it is. If and when he actually tries to do something, then it would be time to contact an attorney and let the attorney deal with it.
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It's so hard to ignore their quacking sometimes. It's ALWAYS someone elses fault, isn't it? If we believed everything they say, they'd be walking on water because they sure never seem to be at fault for anything.
You did what you did to survive. What is the negative in that? Don't try to convince him though. It's impossible to reason with a person in active addiction.
You did what you did to survive. What is the negative in that? Don't try to convince him though. It's impossible to reason with a person in active addiction.
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