TiredMama

Hello!

I have done two intros but I thought I would share my experience with my father here.

My mom was married to him all through my childhood and teen years. He has schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, depression, alcoholic, and an avid pain killer abuser. My mom would go to work when I was younger (around 7 years old) and leave me with him after school. He would drug me with his RX sleeping meds so he could go off and do whatever he wanted.

When I was older, I used to steal his rx pain killers for fun. I was about 19 when I really started abusing them, now I am 26.

I do not talk to him this day. I heard he lives with his parents and has been married a couple of times.

I hope to meet you all and talk to you.

Growing

Hello TiredMama and welcome to the acoa section of SR...

I look forward to getting to know you better...hang in there and keep posting.

The stickies above make for some really great reading, if your interested.

TiredMama

Thanks for the reply and I will check out the stickies.

GiveLove

Welcome TiredMama,

I'm glad you are free of that situation, and (bad as this sounds) glad you are not in contact with him at this point in your life.

Your time is better spent healing yourself, building a great life for yourself, dreaming your dreams. His lousy actions may have gotten in your way for a while, but now you are free to go where you wish, be who you wish.

Welcome to the group....some really nice people here.

Hugs,
GL

TiredMama

That doesn't sound lousy at all. I don't need toxic people in my life and he was definitely one of them. He apologized to me over the years but continued on with the old ways. He never got help and he has been almost dead so many times. He has been stabbed, shot, and robbed numerous times yet he stills lives like he does. It is sad, really. I am glad I don't have contact with him. His parents (my grandparents whom "disowned" me from the family as well because I am caucasion and my husband is Mexican) feed into his behavior and allows him to live with them, continuing the bad behaviors.

Not my problem and thank God it isn't.

GiveLove

I'd like to adopt that as my mantra, if you wouldn't mind

Wascally Wabbit

I can tell you from experience that I had nothing to do with my mother for 20 years, even though she had quit drinking 10 years earlier. I just couldn't handle it. I didnt' want it in my life any more.
Sometimes even though it hurts, we just have to let go of poisonous relationships, or else we die right along with them.

TiredMama

I don't have anything to do with any of my father's family. They have been so toxic to me over the years. I am glad I was "disowned."

My grandfather *dad's father* told me he couldn't let me be a part of his family being married to a Mexican.

GiveLove

Now THERE'S a person that you really don't need polluting your life. I guess it's the generation or whatever, but that kind of racist cr@p needs to just die out. Jeeez.

falloutcity

Me Too!!!!

falloutcity :bounce

TiredMama

Yes. It does. At first it hurt me really bad but I guess being JUDGED is part of life. Thank you for posting on my thread as I will be going.

Good luck to you

Wascally Wabbit

Ever noticed how racist, hateful people tend to be miserable people about everything in their life. I don't get it.

TiredMama

Yep. And unfortunately, my family is full of them. My aunt made a comment to my mom once that she was scared to be around Mexicans, that they "scared her" even though I have two kids half mexican and my husband is mexican. She treats him like he hung the moon, yet says those bigoted things behind our backs.

She is one miserable lady as well.