aztchr

After being gone for a week with my parents car and no phone call, my sister finally called and said she did something really stupid by letting someone else use the car. She didn't know where it was or when the guy was coming back, but she had everyone looking and calling around to find him. She told my mom she wasn't coming back until she got the car back. My mom gave her today or it was being reported stolen.

Long story short, she got home with the car today. She admitted to using and taking my dad's money before she left. She turned over the keys and said I need help and I'm going to an NA meeting with a sober friend who has been talking to her while she was out. He is clean now and went to rehab. The friend picked her up, met my parents and said he would drive her to the meeting and back. He brought over info. about the rehab and my sister's insurance will cover the 30 day program.

Tomorrow, she's going to an orientation at the place and we'll go from there.
My mom asked my sister, "What about (my niece's) birthday?" My sister said she'll have more birthdays. If she didn't get help soon, she might not be there for them. I don't know if she's just talking or not, but usually my sister is giving excuses for everything, especially not wanting to get help.

This time sounds different, but I'm not holding my breath, we've been down this road before, but I'm still holding onto hope. My sister's actions will speak for themselves.

:praying

Spiritual Seeker

This could work out well for your family.
We never know until they check in, stay in, and work at it. But you know this.
Sending some support. Hoping there is no more disappointment.

aztchr

No expectations, no disappointment...

It's so much better when I just state the facts and not project or get too far ahead.
Working the program is keeping my emotions in check. I don't really have to do anything because I know I can't. I accept it and move forward. It's very freeing!
Thanks for the support!

BayAreaPhoenix

No expectations - but hope and prayers that this really is the turning point for your sister! :praying

Ann

If there is one thing I know, it's that we never know when "the time" has come for our addicts.

My prayers go out that this is her time and that she finds a better path.

No expectations, just a whole bunch of faith that her HP has her right where she needs to be.

Hugs

sleepygoat

Your sister sounds like she is in a good place mentally and I pray she follows thru.

peaceteach

Hopeful prayers for you, your sister, and your family, aztchr. And I agree with your "program approach" of no expectations and understanding that it is actually very freeing for you to keep the focus on yourself. I have also felt that weight lifted from my shoulders onto God's instead, just by following the steps.

caileesnana

I pray this is her time also. At least she has one sober friend who cares and is there, one person can make a difference!
susan

aztchr

My sister went through the rehab orientation and assessments.
She wants to go, but is very scared of facing all of her problems. I think she's leaning more to this place because her sober friend got help there and she knows she can change her life around. There is a waiting list, but she's ok with that. While on the list, her counselor/program specialist has given her outpatient information, call and check in times throughout the week, and meetings to attend. She has to hold up her end of the bargain and show her willingness to help herself. She went to the doctor and got all her prescriptions written out, even for over the counter things, so she'll have everything ready when there's availability.

I pray when there's an opening, she will go. She won't have any outside contact for the first week, and then only visitors that have documented attendance at Naranon meetings can see her. My sister is also really nervous about the bf in jail being released before she goes to the rehab. She is getting closer to not wanting him in the picture anymore. The domestic violence is more than we know. I told her there are ways to protect herself and she can make those choices with our support. It's a positive step that she's even questioning wanting to continue to see him.

So that's the update for today.
Tomorrow is my meeting day and enjoying the sunshine outside and inside myself.
Hope everyone chooses a nice weekend for themselves, too! We're worth it!

mooselips

I hope your sister follows through.

I have my fingers crossed, and I'm praying for her....
and your family.

marle

Prayers that your sister follows through. My daughter has told me of her fear of getting clean and having to face all of the awful things that she has done. Hugs, Marle