StandFast

I ahve 12 days clean w/o drinking or using.

It is Satur night and I am not sure what to do. I have been coping by wakig early, gym, work -hime sleep repeat.

I have not gone out as I want to avoid drinks. I feel that in short term I can be around in and not drink. Or should I stay in for anothe couple of weeks?

lostmdboy

I always heard avoid old playmates, and play grounds.

parentrecovers

hey standfast, nice to meet you! you can keep posting here tonight, or have you thought about aa meetings? stay strong, k

Anna

I couldn't be around people who were drinking for a long time.

I did change my lifestyle a lot when I stopped drinking.

For me walking/hiking was the answer and getting back to my love of music.

You'll find your way!

gravity

In my case, at least for the first few weeks, I had to stay away from people, places, and situations where I would be tempted to drink. You could stay in (but keep busy eg. rent a movie, read/post on SR) or if you go out, do something where there is zero/minimal temptation (eg. visit sober friends/family, AA meeting, hiking, shopping). I found that in time, as I got stronger, I could start doing more things where alcohol was present but not the focus (eg. live sporting events, concerts). There are places (eg. bars) and people I may never be able to handle - no huge loss in the long run. In general, your sobriety comes first but this in no way means that you have to stay home all the time. I'm finding that a sober life is great, I've been doing tons of rewarding & fun stuff - so much better than my old lifestyle.

1963comet

You could go out and see a movie. Or go to the mall and buy yourself a little something. I don't think it is good to lock yourself in the house. There is alot of things to do out there without drinking.

But this is just the way I see it. And just trying to help.

Goodnfast

Welcome to SR StandFast!

Changing your routine, at least for a while, seems to make sense to me. I did 99% of my drinking alone at home, so I've been finding every excuse I can to get out...even if it's to run the errands I used to think I hated so much.

Congrats on a good start. Keep going!

SF69

I think the answer depends on the person.

For me, I can be around people drinking, but I can't go to a place where drinking is the objective. I know that's confusing, so here's an example:

I can go out to a club to see a band playing and not have too much of a problem, but If there weren't a band playing and people were just drinking, that would probably be a problem for me right now.

StandFast

thanks everyone. SF I agree with you 100% I would never go a "drinking" bar, my type of place typically has specail music guests and dancing.

I hated going to a "bar bar" where people stand/sit around just to drink...

Having said that I think I will hold out for another week or two. I am enjoying being sober too much. I feel more in control and want to get up early go to chucrh, workout, and do some yoga....As a single persons, saturdays are lame anyway. lol

Cheers everyone and thanks for being there. I couldn't imagine doing it withou you all!

"When you find your self digging a whole - STOP Digging"