Childish love
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Childish love
I have been thinking about barriers to a healthy me and a healthy relationship.
I think there are alot of childish desires/impulses in my need for a relationship.
I have been thinking about being afraid of being abandoned. Feeling unloved/unlovable?
I was wondering what your thought were about your inner child/childish needs.
How do you get at them and how do you heal?
I think there are alot of childish desires/impulses in my need for a relationship.
I have been thinking about being afraid of being abandoned. Feeling unloved/unlovable?
I was wondering what your thought were about your inner child/childish needs.
How do you get at them and how do you heal?
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I don't think there is anything childish about desiring a relationship - we all have a need to feel loved, protected, heard. Those are normal needs/desires.
I haven't felt the fear of being abandoned, but I do know fear in other regards. One of the things I've discovered along the way is that I had an unhealthy outlook on my marriage, such as expecting my husband to meet ALL of my needs - emotional and otherwise.
Now, instead of looking to him, or any one person, to meet my emotional need of 'beloning, of being heard, being accepted for who I am, I find that need met in many relationships with friends.
How do you heal?
=-)
That's a topic I've been on for years now....I believe healing comes in a variety of ways:
* Understanding/recognizing our self-worth
* recognizing the messages in society that tend to diminish/undervalue our self-worth
* Recognizing that we have daily choices that affect our outlook
*Being true to ourselves, making a commitment to care for our body, mind and spirit
* Actively... daily, pursue peace. Even if that means only taking 10 minutes to read something positive, inspirational, to meditate or pray, to be quiet... Meditation is not a passive quiet time, it is an active strengthening of the mind and soul.
..ah, I could on about this all day....
for me, my God, my HP, has brought healing through His sanctuary, through prayer, through landscapes, through worship ....
I am certain that He will help you to find healing too, GNS. I'll be praying for you!
I haven't felt the fear of being abandoned, but I do know fear in other regards. One of the things I've discovered along the way is that I had an unhealthy outlook on my marriage, such as expecting my husband to meet ALL of my needs - emotional and otherwise.
Now, instead of looking to him, or any one person, to meet my emotional need of 'beloning, of being heard, being accepted for who I am, I find that need met in many relationships with friends.
How do you heal?
=-)
That's a topic I've been on for years now....I believe healing comes in a variety of ways:
* Understanding/recognizing our self-worth
* recognizing the messages in society that tend to diminish/undervalue our self-worth
* Recognizing that we have daily choices that affect our outlook
*Being true to ourselves, making a commitment to care for our body, mind and spirit
* Actively... daily, pursue peace. Even if that means only taking 10 minutes to read something positive, inspirational, to meditate or pray, to be quiet... Meditation is not a passive quiet time, it is an active strengthening of the mind and soul.
..ah, I could on about this all day....
for me, my God, my HP, has brought healing through His sanctuary, through prayer, through landscapes, through worship ....
I am certain that He will help you to find healing too, GNS. I'll be praying for you!
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Originally Posted by gns 
I think there are alot of childish desires/impulses in my need for a relationship.
I have been thinking about being afraid of being abandoned. Feeling unloved/unlovable?
I was wondering what your thought were about your inner child/childish needs.
I have been thinking about being afraid of being abandoned. Feeling unloved/unlovable?
I was wondering what your thought were about your inner child/childish needs.
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Hmmm. childish needs?
I think Tom Robbins wrote, "It's never too late for a happy childhood."
I like that quote.
So, for me taking time to play at something enjoyable, I think is healthy. Frisbee, cards, puzzles, playing with play-doh with your kids can be so fun, whatever floats your boat...
I give myself time to wallow in whatever misery grieves me, but I limit it, because I tend to have one of those melancoly personalities, then I get myself on track with more positive persuits like those listed in Anamchara's post above.
I think Tom Robbins wrote, "It's never too late for a happy childhood."
I like that quote.
So, for me taking time to play at something enjoyable, I think is healthy. Frisbee, cards, puzzles, playing with play-doh with your kids can be so fun, whatever floats your boat...I give myself time to wallow in whatever misery grieves me, but I limit it, because I tend to have one of those melancoly personalities, then I get myself on track with more positive persuits like those listed in Anamchara's post above.
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