uh oh, crisis time, saturdays are way too long
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Join Date: Jun 2003
Location: Hinsdale, Illinois
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uh oh, crisis time, saturdays are way too long
My AH is nuts outside. Cleaning the garage. throwing things into the trash with a vengance. drinking beer. picked a fight with 16 year old son about his grades. (the kids an honor student, dean's list, but my AH doesn't like his grades, and thinks I'm not supporting his role as a father if I don't agree with him).
Went for walk with son, before he got out of control like his father. son is as hurt as i am -- i should have been going to meetings for my whole marriage and maybe this wouldn't have happened.
Long long long long day ahead still. what to do? I'm getting anxious and sick feeling. what about tonight? what do i say, what do i do. . . . i can't take it.
Can't focus, can't get past the fear. what if they fight, what if my depressed nuts AH does something drastic? am i paranoid? i don't know if i ever could judge a situation. I'm not strong enough today.
Went for walk with son, before he got out of control like his father. son is as hurt as i am -- i should have been going to meetings for my whole marriage and maybe this wouldn't have happened.
Long long long long day ahead still. what to do? I'm getting anxious and sick feeling. what about tonight? what do i say, what do i do. . . . i can't take it.
Can't focus, can't get past the fear. what if they fight, what if my depressed nuts AH does something drastic? am i paranoid? i don't know if i ever could judge a situation. I'm not strong enough today.
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Join Date: May 2003
Location: Southern Maryland
Posts: 169
Candle:
DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP! Your husband is doing a good enough job of getting down on you -- don't add to it by thinking there's something you could have done to prevent this!
It's a summer night in June!
Lots of choices. Grab your son and go to the park, the movies, the mall, drive to visit a relative. Tomorrow's not a school day, so you and you son can stay out late tonight! HAVE FUN!
Grab a pizza!
Put a zone around that alcoholic -- let him deal with himself tonight.
Grab the car keys and wallet, and drive with the windows down!
DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP! Your husband is doing a good enough job of getting down on you -- don't add to it by thinking there's something you could have done to prevent this!
It's a summer night in June!
Lots of choices. Grab your son and go to the park, the movies, the mall, drive to visit a relative. Tomorrow's not a school day, so you and you son can stay out late tonight! HAVE FUN!
Grab a pizza!
Put a zone around that alcoholic -- let him deal with himself tonight.
Grab the car keys and wallet, and drive with the windows down!
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Join Date: Feb 2003
Location: New York
Posts: 211
Great Idea Eyes Open!
I was going to say something along the same line.
I hope the two of you went out and had a great time.
I HATE the times that I had to sit around and look at my drunk AH. Even if he fell asleep watching TV, his outrageously loud snoring would continue to ruin my night.
Don't let him ruin your (and your son's) night now too!!!
NoDoubt
I was going to say something along the same line.
I hope the two of you went out and had a great time.
I HATE the times that I had to sit around and look at my drunk AH. Even if he fell asleep watching TV, his outrageously loud snoring would continue to ruin my night.
Don't let him ruin your (and your son's) night now too!!!
NoDoubt
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(((( candlelight))))
what great ideas ! I love eyes open one with the windows down
(and some cheery music to go along with it !!)
this is your life and your son's we do not have to let someone else take that life away from us unless we let them.
If you are concerned that violence may break out later, calling home first might be a thought, hopefuly he'll just pass out.
just realized its pretty late now, so i hope you had a nice evening.
hugs
liddy
what great ideas ! I love eyes open one with the windows down
(and some cheery music to go along with it !!)
this is your life and your son's we do not have to let someone else take that life away from us unless we let them.
If you are concerned that violence may break out later, calling home first might be a thought, hopefuly he'll just pass out.
just realized its pretty late now, so i hope you had a nice evening.
hugs
liddy
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Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Ayer's Cliff, Quebec
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Hi,
As was already said but I'll say it again he's doing a great job on putting you down don't start beating yourself up by thinking you can do anything to change things. The only thing you can do is take care of yourself.
Ngaire
As was already said but I'll say it again he's doing a great job on putting you down don't start beating yourself up by thinking you can do anything to change things. The only thing you can do is take care of yourself.
Ngaire
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