j. in jail, little j. in detention..update
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j. in jail, little j. in detention..update
little j. was put in the juvenile detention for 24 hrs. & then sent back to the group home. seems they could not keep him there any longer than that. i do not understand why. since then he has run away twice & as of now he is on the run again & has been for 3 days. i think i know where he is but i am not reporting it.he will only be gone again & it they can not control him i sure can't. he is headed down the same road as his father & i can do nothing about it. he is not contacting me at all. that is a good thing because i do want to keep my hands off the addict. it is a good feeling to know that i do not have a front row seat with him.
j. is still in the county jail. he calls but i have not took the first one.it breaks my heart he is like he is & has set such bad examples for his son. he went to court yesterday & the case was dismissed where he was suppose to have broken into the house next door & where he was beaten so bad. that went as if should have because that was not true. i am glad the judge saw through that.he made his bed hard enough without false charges. he goes to court jan.31 on these other charges of assault & resisting arrset. this is a felony because of the severity of it. he has sure dug a hole for himself. he has called other people & i got the message that he is wanting his family to pay off the lawyer where he goes to court on monday. $450, it will not come from me or mr. hope. i hate it if he does have to have a court appointed lawyer but he did this not us.
i am taking it one day at a time & trying to focus on my self & what i need to be doing.
thanks for the prayers & please keep them going up. things i guess are as they should be & i keep working my recovery. i need all the help i can muster.
j. is still in the county jail. he calls but i have not took the first one.it breaks my heart he is like he is & has set such bad examples for his son. he went to court yesterday & the case was dismissed where he was suppose to have broken into the house next door & where he was beaten so bad. that went as if should have because that was not true. i am glad the judge saw through that.he made his bed hard enough without false charges. he goes to court jan.31 on these other charges of assault & resisting arrset. this is a felony because of the severity of it. he has sure dug a hole for himself. he has called other people & i got the message that he is wanting his family to pay off the lawyer where he goes to court on monday. $450, it will not come from me or mr. hope. i hate it if he does have to have a court appointed lawyer but he did this not us.
i am taking it one day at a time & trying to focus on my self & what i need to be doing.
thanks for the prayers & please keep them going up. things i guess are as they should be & i keep working my recovery. i need all the help i can muster.
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Hope,
Your recovery is shining. I sometimes struggle with the reality in my life : Just because I work a program of recovery does NOT mean that my life is going to go along smoothly and I will be happy all the time. Reality for me is that sometimes situations in my life are very painful, and sometimes I have to watch my loved ones go down a path that is LINED with red flags and billboards saying "DANGER DANGER do not enter." Recovery for me simply means that I don't go down that path with him. It means I allow him the dignity to make his own choices and experience his own consequences.... and mostly it means I take loving care of myself and I don't spend all of my days and nights worrying about what is happening to him. Recovery means that I can imagine him bundled in a blanket of love from me as I hand him over to his HP, and then my other recovery friends remind me to let go of the outcome. It's not mine to determine.
Again, your recovery is shining. Hopefully your Js will learn their life lessons and come out of these situations with a plan for a new life filled with recovery, peace, serenity.
Big hugs
Cats
Your recovery is shining. I sometimes struggle with the reality in my life : Just because I work a program of recovery does NOT mean that my life is going to go along smoothly and I will be happy all the time. Reality for me is that sometimes situations in my life are very painful, and sometimes I have to watch my loved ones go down a path that is LINED with red flags and billboards saying "DANGER DANGER do not enter." Recovery for me simply means that I don't go down that path with him. It means I allow him the dignity to make his own choices and experience his own consequences.... and mostly it means I take loving care of myself and I don't spend all of my days and nights worrying about what is happening to him. Recovery means that I can imagine him bundled in a blanket of love from me as I hand him over to his HP, and then my other recovery friends remind me to let go of the outcome. It's not mine to determine.
Again, your recovery is shining. Hopefully your Js will learn their life lessons and come out of these situations with a plan for a new life filled with recovery, peace, serenity.
Big hugs
Cats
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Sending you best wishes and knowing you are doing the right thing.
The right thing for yourself is not always the easy thing. If it was everyone would do the right thing for themselves.
You are doing good.
The right thing for yourself is not always the easy thing. If it was everyone would do the right thing for themselves.
You are doing good.
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(((Hope))))
I'm sorry j and J are insisting on learning things the hard way, but I think you are doing great in taking care of yourself. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers to wrap yourself up in!
Amy
I'm sorry j and J are insisting on learning things the hard way, but I think you are doing great in taking care of yourself. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers to wrap yourself up in!
Amy
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Hope (((hugs))) My sponsor always reminds me that HP is in charge... that my kids will get to where they NEED to be because there may be someone they NEED to meet - or someone who needs to meet them. Or there may be something they NEED to hear - and only one place where they can hear it.
I pray your son can figure this stuff out soon - it may take seeing HIS son flounder to get him to realize what he is doing.... there are reasons for every thing.
You and your son and grandson are in my prayers - right this minute. Lots of them. (((hugs)))
I pray your son can figure this stuff out soon - it may take seeing HIS son flounder to get him to realize what he is doing.... there are reasons for every thing.
You and your son and grandson are in my prayers - right this minute. Lots of them. (((hugs)))
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