Spiritual Seeker

My son returned home last night bec he wasn't allowed in the house while I was away for a few days. I decided not to "vomit" my recovery lecture all over him one more time and just let him be. I did nothing (HUGE HUGE for me) bec I FINALLY know that I am POWERLESS.
Instead I stood back and my husband, his stepdad, asked him today what his plans were.
My son said: "My mom and I will be picking out a place for me to go just like I agreed to. I hope it works this time"
It feels very different this time around. Mainly because I am practicing the 12 principles of Al-anon in all of my affairs. Recently, I FINALLY made a decision to turn my will over and let a power greater than myself work in my life and the lives of my family members.
Hal-le-lu-ya. I am working it and it is working.

Mair

Brilliant, i will be praying for you and your son. Da iawn cariad

Mair xx

Miss Pink

well heres a big "HELL YA" FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!

Growing

Thats great news SS!

denny57

Thanks for sharing; it is true, it works if you work it. I'm happy for you and send prayers for you and your son.

Spiritual Seeker

Tonight my AS actually said he is ready. When asked when, he said this week. I gave him a few choices from rehabs I researched in the past.
He narrowed it down to the main possibility. He wants to take care of his warrant before he goes. WoW!
I am so glad that he did'n go when I did the intervention last March. It would not have given us this chance to reestablish our relationship on different terms. He didn't see that his life was unmanagable then; he sees it know.
Everything happens just when it should.

NoChoice

SS I am so happy for you. We always make things more difficult than they are. I am so happy for you. I am so happy that you had that feeling of wonderfulness that the program brings! Give it all to God!

Have a wonderful day.

Spiritual Seeker

Keep It Simple...Yes that is an official slogan. Oh so true.

Wascally Wabbit

Spirit, thats the way to do it!
Son will have to make his own decisions on whether or not he wants to change.
They take on a whole new character when we are the ones who change.
I hope this works for him, and you can continue to "take care of yourself".

DII

Call me the "glass if half full" guy....but beware of the A's who use treatment as a way to manipulate us and avoid true recovery. The positive attention they get by just being agreeable to recovery is powerful. Often they start with good intentions but look for the warning signs. They see themselves as different than the "other" people in treatment. They focus on the statistics of how many people relapse. They discount the importance of an outpatient program after tratment. They stress about who knows they are in tratment and what the story will be when they get "out". They say they are feeling "gret" or "fine" all the time. They skip after treatment sessions more and more frequently. They want to blend right back in to their old life and situations qickly because they are "better".

I'm sure the group can add a whole lot more. Remember it's not what they say but what they do and how they act that is what is true.

Good luck with your son and I hope he does kick it!

Barbara52

This continues to look like a positive move on his part. ANd you seem to be handling it well. {hugs}

I'll keep you and your son in my prayers and hope this time he gets serious about recovery.

Rella927

Great News SS...keeping you, your son and family in prayers

Progress not perfection!

grateful2b

Spirit, I am so thrilled for you both, got my fingers crossed and saying a prayer....keep on keeping on.....