I'm so sorry
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Join Date: Oct 2007
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I'm so sorry
I知 sorry that I知 a weak man, that your will outlasted mine and that I have abandoned you when you needed me the most.
I知 sorry that I had taken everything that we built together, your house, your futures, and your daughter.
I知 sorry that your family hates me for not preventing your addiction and for leaving you
I知 sorry I was a bad father and could not fix a broken mother and that our daughter doesn稚 talk or visit you very often.
I知 sorry our daughter痴 university/marriage fund and my retirement fund will mostly end up in the hands of street dealers.
I知 sorry we will have to watch you slowly hit rock bottom over the next few years and the emotional stress it will cause everyone.
I知 sorry I loved you with all my heart and would have laid my life down for you
I知 sorry you left me no other choice and that my sanity and our daughter痴 future depended on the termination of our marriage.
I知 sorry that your still in denial and wont admit that you have a problem so chances are you may never read this post.
I知 sorry that I had taken everything that we built together, your house, your futures, and your daughter.
I知 sorry that your family hates me for not preventing your addiction and for leaving you
I知 sorry I was a bad father and could not fix a broken mother and that our daughter doesn稚 talk or visit you very often.
I知 sorry our daughter痴 university/marriage fund and my retirement fund will mostly end up in the hands of street dealers.
I知 sorry we will have to watch you slowly hit rock bottom over the next few years and the emotional stress it will cause everyone.
I知 sorry I loved you with all my heart and would have laid my life down for you
I知 sorry you left me no other choice and that my sanity and our daughter痴 future depended on the termination of our marriage.
I知 sorry that your still in denial and wont admit that you have a problem so chances are you may never read this post.
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i am sorry you are hurting. you have done what you had to do to survive & to take care of yourself & your daughter. you did everything you could do. do not feel guilty.you did not CAUSE it,you can not CONTROL it, & you can not CURE it. i hope your ex reaches her bottom soon. there are caring people here who have gone down the same road that you have been.my addict is my son & we can not love them clean.they have to do it on their own. welcome to S.R. keep coming back.prayers for you,your daughter & your ex.
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FEP,
It might not feel like it right now, but you have given your daughter a wonderful gift, that of a healthy parent who loves her. Perhaps her mother will seek recovery... there is always hope.
I am so sorry for your pain, but welcome to SR. Try to visualize the hundreds of people who are gathering around you and your sweet daughter, people who understand your pain as few others can, hugging you and patting your shoulder.
You've come to the right place.
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It might not feel like it right now, but you have given your daughter a wonderful gift, that of a healthy parent who loves her. Perhaps her mother will seek recovery... there is always hope.
I am so sorry for your pain, but welcome to SR. Try to visualize the hundreds of people who are gathering around you and your sweet daughter, people who understand your pain as few others can, hugging you and patting your shoulder.
You've come to the right place.
Hugs
Cats
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Join Date: Apr 2007
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You are not weak. You are strong. the hardest thing is to leave someone you love, but you must love yourself and daughter more! You didn't cause it, don't feel sorry you can't control it. that is her job not yours.
HUGS to you, you are on the right path, it hurts but will get better!!
HUGS to you, you are on the right path, it hurts but will get better!!
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Everyone before me has said it so well. It takes a very strong man and father to do what you have done and for the reasons you did it.
You did not allow the addiction to destroy more than it could. It has already done bad but you have prevented it doing its worst.
I am so sorry that you are hurting so but my hat is off to you for doing what you did.
Lots of hugs and prayers,
Marteen
You did not allow the addiction to destroy more than it could. It has already done bad but you have prevented it doing its worst.
I am so sorry that you are hurting so but my hat is off to you for doing what you did.
Lots of hugs and prayers,
Marteen
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(1) My sons were learning what marriage looked like by watching ours.
(2) My sons were learning how to treat their wives by watching how their father treated me.
When I looked at it from that perspective, my next move was pretty obvious. Divorcing their dad was the best thing I ever did for all of us.
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(2) My sons were learning how to treat their wives by watching how their father treated me.
When I looked at it from that perspective, my next move was pretty obvious. Divorcing their dad was the best thing I ever did for all of us.
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(((FEP))))
I know you are hurting and I'm sorry about that. I pray that the hurt will ease and that you will realize that taking healthy care of you and your daughter is the smartest move you can make even though it hurts.....for now. The hurt won't last forever.
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Hangin' In
I know you are hurting and I'm sorry about that. I pray that the hurt will ease and that you will realize that taking healthy care of you and your daughter is the smartest move you can make even though it hurts.....for now. The hurt won't last forever.
Hugs,
Hangin' In
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Join Date: Oct 2007
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Thanks to all for the kind words of support.
I seemed to be enjoying Christmas for the first time in years. I know my ex is having her worst, maybe in her entire life. It seems every time I see my ex I'm overwhelmed with guilt, I know what I had to do and I did it but I always wondered if I could have done things differently.
It's New Years Eve, time for a new year and a new life I only hope I can leave some of my emotional baggage in the past.
I seemed to be enjoying Christmas for the first time in years. I know my ex is having her worst, maybe in her entire life. It seems every time I see my ex I'm overwhelmed with guilt, I know what I had to do and I did it but I always wondered if I could have done things differently.
It's New Years Eve, time for a new year and a new life I only hope I can leave some of my emotional baggage in the past.
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I also feel the guilt when I think of my ex. He is struggling emotionally so much. But we gave them lots of chances, warnings, and they made thier choices. I am happy now, no more anxiety, but he is so unhappy. I would like to wish you a truly happy new year and all the best for 2008 for us all!!!!
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