Pajarito

Hi all- I hope you are enjoying your holidays. . .

I am back in town and catching up with you. My time away was a nice break, but I'm now getting right back into the thick of things and meeting with a lawyer today about divorcing my AH. I am scared, but trying to be rational and as calm as I can. My good friend at work is a divorced, single mom and has been really helpful in recommending this lawyer, so I feel good about that. I've written down some ??? to ask the lawyer, but I wondered if any of you with experience have any helpful suggestions or questions you can pass along. It's hard to think of everything. We have one daughter, so custody will be an issue. Thanks for your help.

geees poncho

I won't advise one way or another on a divorce, just prepare yourself for some very painfull decisions. and tough times.

GOOD LUCK

LaTeeDa

As emotional as divorce is, try not to slip into that with an attorney. Keep the meeting about business and save the emotions for a counselor. Also, be clear about how you want things to go and don't let the attorney turn it into a battle. Keep in mind that the more fighting back and forth that happens, the more money the attorney makes. It's up to you to manage your attorney, not the other way around. That said, I know sometimes a battle can't be avoided, and that's why you have an attorney.

Best wishes and hugs to you,
L

denny57

I second LTD - don't use the lawyer as an emotional outlet. Don't call with every little problem, call with several items to discuss. I tended to avoid calls altogether - they run on - and used email instead. I whittled them down, making them as brief as possible.

Believe in what you know is right for you and STICK TO IT.

Good luck!

hopeangel

no advice, just wanted to let you know i am there with you in spirit and supporting you.

CBrown

No advice either. I was so upbeat during my dissolution meetings with my attorney, he suggested I should get counseling because I wasn't mad enough. Sheesh! Lots of support coming your way! You are a strong, positive woman, and I have enjoyed your posts tremendously. Good luck with whichever way you decide!