steelenme

Reading others' posts on here and the hell that they still have to endure:

Should I be glad that she isn't contacting me?

Should I be glad that she seems to blame me?

Should I be glad that she doesn't care about me?

Should I be glad that she seems to be better off without me?

Should I not worry or care about the "way" it ended? The things I said?

Should I be glad that it will never work with her?

Should I be glad that I miss her and I can't even call her anymore?

Should I be glad that it's over?

Should I be glad?

guineapigjude

Don't know if you should.
But if you should, and if you work on you, some day you might be.

FormerDoormat

I don't know if you should be glad, but it would be nice if you told us how you feel.

steelenme

I feel all over the place. At times I'm happy, at times I'm mad, at times I'm sad...all in one day. I doubt, I question, I second guess. This is a very confusing and painful experience. I feel for all of you that have to go through these problems...many more difficult than mine.

FormerDoormat

Once all the confusion in my brain cleared, I realized that my relationship with my alcoholic boyfriend was over long before our physical separation. I wasn't glad that my relationship ended, but I was happier without all the drama that his alcoholism brought into my life.

SaTiT

Sure..allow yourself to do so.
You allow yourself to go through the living hell..so why not ?

oh yeah the guilt well, that was allowed too.
So f -it anyways...feel what you feel.

Be good to yourself..but you're going wonder about that too...i did..lol

it's all over the place becuase i don't know... because it's all over.
yeap..the narely roller coasters...so i kind of just rolled with it.

geees poncho

I guess you should feel exactly how you feel.

like I said before Im in the same boat.

We are a little nuts right now, & thats OK,

because we loved some one that is lost in a bottle or drug,

and they don't feel a thing, until they wake up and start over again.

We did'nt cause their problem, & we can't cure their problem.

Only HP has that power, and thank God Im not an HP.

your gonna get thru this & be much stronger for it.

so don't beat yourself up.

denny57

I couldn't leap from awareness to glad, but awareness led to acceptance and letting go and that led to serenity and happiness. The list you have there is about being glad about negatives. Once they are positives, you might find much to be glad about. For example, instead of "glad she doesn't care about me," "glad I understand she cared as much as she was able."

((()))

Kindeyes

I guess we just feel what we feel at the time we're feeling it. I don't think you "should" or "need to" feel glad if you don't feel that way. You are in recovery and it's a process. I hope that you feel better tomorrow.
gentle hugs to you

SaTiT

I feel what i feel....becuase I'm not numb out of mind freaken mind.

maybe i 'll grow out of it and get tired of it someday..until then .lol
i feel better everytime i listen to it...it release pin up energy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVnSaJw21Qk

If you feel so empty ,so used up, so let down
If you feel so angery, so rip off, so step on
You're not the only one, refusing to back down
You're not the, only one...so get up
let's start a riot.

If you feel so felty, so dirty, so F@# up
If you feel so walked on, so painful, so pissed off
You're not the only one, refusing to go down.
You're not the only one...so get up.

Janitw

At least you CAN feel........she can't - not yet....not until she faces the demons within herself.

The one bad thing about being in love with an alcoholic/addict is that even though you may not realize it yet....you are just as sick or sicker than she is sweetie. You see....she is addicted to the substance but you are addicted to her...the addict. But know this. We can heal better than they can and sometimes alot quicker also. Stay strong. Right now your emotions are all over the place and that is NORMAL. Time will heal you. So be gentle with yourself and let the healing take place.