I am a fraud. Liar. Loser.
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Rockledge, FL
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I am a fraud. Liar. Loser.
Why can't I break free of the bonds of alcohol?????????? I have had 2 drinks tonite.
Why?? Didn't want them. Just got bored. Or something.
I have been able to stop (since I started posting here) at 1-2 drinks, I feel myself getting a "buzz", and stop.
Is this good? I need to know.
Can one control drinking?
Thanks,
Shari
Why?? Didn't want them. Just got bored. Or something.
I have been able to stop (since I started posting here) at 1-2 drinks, I feel myself getting a "buzz", and stop.
Is this good? I need to know.
Can one control drinking?
Thanks,
Shari
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Join Date: Oct 2003
Location: Melbourne victoria
Posts: 1,975
Hi Shari,
I know that I couldnt control my drinking, and abstinence was the only way for me .
It might work for a day , a week, or a month, but I know inside me, that eventually I would lose the power of choice , and be back worse than I was .
You are not a loser, you may be an alcoholic, and if this is the case , you dont actually have the power to choose .
I was powerless over alcohol, and still would be , if I indulged
HUGX
Leigh
I know that I couldnt control my drinking, and abstinence was the only way for me .
It might work for a day , a week, or a month, but I know inside me, that eventually I would lose the power of choice , and be back worse than I was .
You are not a loser, you may be an alcoholic, and if this is the case , you dont actually have the power to choose .
I was powerless over alcohol, and still would be , if I indulged
HUGX
Leigh
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Originally Posted by readytorecover 
Is this good? I need to know.
Originally Posted by readytorecover
Can one control drinking?
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If you are an alcoholic, you will not be able to control your drinking. It might work for awhile, but it won't maintain. Also, when I was trying to control my drinking, all I did was think about alcohol and when would I next have a drink, where, etc. It was such a relief to just not have to think about it anymore.
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Serene In Dixie
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I suggest you go 30 days without a drink.
Then you can decide what you want to do.
When that proved impossible for me
I knew I was in deep trouble.
Blessings
Then you can decide what you want to do.
When that proved impossible for me
I knew I was in deep trouble.
Blessings
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: UK
Posts: 56
Fantastic reply be 51Anna,
that is exactly how I`m starting to feel and it has only been a couple of weeks.
It seems that if you say no more at all, then you are never tempted to think about the next drink and how much you should have.
It`s as though a weight is lifted from you.
that is exactly how I`m starting to feel and it has only been a couple of weeks.
It seems that if you say no more at all, then you are never tempted to think about the next drink and how much you should have.
It`s as though a weight is lifted from you.
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Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: Nursing Home in Brick, New Jersey
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I was told "When you're trying to control, you're already out of control." Trying to measure the amount, times, effects, etc. would just seem like too much work to me. Now, if you want to quit, I'll bet you'll get plenty of suggestions here. Starting with, don't buy it, don't keep it available, don't obsess over it!
When you want not to drink more than you want to drink, then you'll be ready to get off that alcoholic rollercoaster!
When you want not to drink more than you want to drink, then you'll be ready to get off that alcoholic rollercoaster!
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Back in my head
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I haven't got much room for advice giving, but I know for me Ive tried to control my drinking and it does work for a while I managed to only have 2-3 drinks a night but eventually it got back to what it used to be like. Then I realized normal drinkers don't have 2-3 drinks a night. they might not even have 2-3 drinks a week. Eventually I was right back where I left off. Not even where I left off. It had gotten worse without me even seeing it. I only have a month sober now, but it feels wonderful. I suggest taking Carol's advice. try to go a month without it. I miss my drinking. the drink was my best friend. I can't control it though. It controls me. I know I won't survive if I let it control me. It's a decision you have to make. Is it really that important to you?
Good luck!
Good luck!
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
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God knows I spent years trying...
...to control it, but each time it led me straight back to hell. (Tried "just" beer, only on weekends or special occasions, & so on.) If it was possible to moderate I would not be sitting here typing this - would've done anything to not have to say that's it! In over 25 years my struggles to control it ended up putting me in some very dangerous situations, driving drunk among them. I know what you mean, though, you find yourself wanting it for no apparent reason, even after all it's put you through. Praying for you.
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