Fontaine

Hi

This is the first time I've been on a recovery site, so hello.

I've been sober now for 11 weeks. Monday will be 3 months - and that's a record for me having only got to 7 weeks in the past. I work really long hours so haven't been able to get to any meetings for support so thought I'd try this website instead. I've got a big party at the weekend & do not want to mess up at this stage in my recovery. I don't think I'll drink but it's already worrying me - Any advice?

Thanks

Dee74

the only advice I'd give...if you're not sure...don't go.
You probably know well enough how this thing can ambush you when you're not even thinking about it...if you're already worried this far ahead, isn't that a point for pause ?

just a thought

welcome anyway
D

barb dwyer

welcome Fontaine -

as for advice - what Dee said.

kelsh

Hi Fontain,

I agree with what Dee said. Even though I have been sober a long while, I really think over if I should go to a place or party where alcohol will be free flowing. :praying

You have a good sobriety going with three months on Monday! :comfort

Take care of yourself and keep away from Slippery Places for now.

kelsh

Anna

Welcome,

And, the advice is don't go.

Sobriety has to be your priority.

Rusty Zipper

fontaine, welcome and congrats on almost 3 monts...

what dee, barb, kelsh, anna said...

beginning to see a patern here fontaine?

good wishes

xxoo, rz

ps, mentioned long works hours, one of the H.A.L.T.S.

hungry, angry, lonely, "TIRED"

Rusty Zipper

if you go, have a escape plan!!!

Rella927

Welcome to SR!

And I will also agree with what Dee and Rusty said!

Make sure that you feel you want to go....if you are having second thoughts DO NOT GO! If you do go please do as Rusty stated and "have an escape plan!"

Missymae737

Welcome to SR...

Early sobriety I had to remove myself from situations that involved drinking...

Keep posting, so glad you found us...

Rowan

Welcome to SR, Fontaine.

Captain Kirk

Hi!
Welcome! And congratulations on your 11 Weeks!
Don't do anything which may compromise your sobrity, so maybe if you think it's possible you'll drink at the party just don't go.
Take care.

Fontaine

Thanks for such a warm welcome and your replies. The party is a work do that I've organised so I have to attend. to meet & greet. Parties have been ok so far, as long as I'm with friends and feel 'safe' if that makes sense. 'm worried about feeling uncomfortable because they're collegues not friends - they'll be drinking & having fun. I'm scared I'll be boring, unrelaxed and won't be able to dance if I'm sober.

I thought I'd try and find someone else there who isn't drinking - but not sure how to do that subtly! If not, and I feel uncomfortable I'll just leave...food poisoning or something??

Aysha

Yep..Definately what Dee said.
doesnt get any more strait forward than that.
Glad you are here.

Rowan

Hey Fontaine,

Make sure you bring your own vehicle so you can leave whenever the urge strikes. Do you have any sober friends that can attend with you as your guest?
Dancing sober takes some getting used to, but it's fun!

maze51

Welcome Fontaine, I too am faced with the same dilemma. I only have four days clean and sober, and there is a Christmas party that we attend at our friends house each year, and it has been on my mind. I am going to take the advise the others have given and not go. I also work long hours and again yesterday, I missed a meeting I intended to go.

Meetings are important for me, they keep me focused and committed to staying sober.
This forum is also a great place to check in daily. By typing and conveying the desire to stay sober, it helps keep you focused.

I'm grateful you are all here

whittenboy

Welcome Fontaine,
You have been given some good advice here.
A sober friend helps. An escape plan is essential.
Glad to meet you and good luck.

Use the party to celebrate your sober time and go dance your butt off!

Missymae737

What a beautiful angel...

layla17

Welcome Fontaine. Best advice is don't go, but if you do go then make sure you have a back up plan.

dave47

Hello Fontaine and welcome.Just to repeat what others have been saying,i have a do coming up in a couple of weeks and i'm taking the car.The safeguards are in place and there is no way i'm going to drink.If you have doubts don't go,best wishes and congrats on the 11 weeks.

Pinkcuda

Also you might notice that there's a lot of others there that are sober. Something you may not have noticed in the past. In fact, I would bet that a couple will ask you if you're O.K. to drive at one point or another, having no idea whatsoever that you haven't been drinking at all. Drunks seem to take notice of other people that are drunk at the time. I don't know why, but it's possible that drunk people have a way of bringing attention to themselves. As far as dancing, I couldn't dance drunk. I just thought I could.