Frustrated
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Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Lake City, Fl
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Frustrated
Hey guys. This is my first post and I'm in a frustrated place in my life right now.
I'm 27 and have been drinking since I was 15. Drinking has caused some hardships in my life and there have been times when I have actually quit. The longest I have been sober is 6 weeks. I have had two DUI's along with a few possesion under 21. All my arrests have been alcohol related, but were all in a span of 18-21. It has been 5 years since my last DUI.
I'm the binge type of drinker and go out once or twice a week but when I go out I usually get so plastered I black out but I don't pass out. It's weird and scary. But then again I have some nights when I drink and I have a good time.
Giving up alcohol will be tough because all my friends drink. I recently broke up with my girlfriend and want to start dating. So going out to bars and clubs to meet woman will seem weird if I'm not drinking. Alcohol used to help me out when opening up and talking to strangers but now it seems to make my anxiety worse when I drink, until I get so smashed I don't know or remember what I said!
Any advice or comments would be appreciated.
I'm 27 and have been drinking since I was 15. Drinking has caused some hardships in my life and there have been times when I have actually quit. The longest I have been sober is 6 weeks. I have had two DUI's along with a few possesion under 21. All my arrests have been alcohol related, but were all in a span of 18-21. It has been 5 years since my last DUI.
I'm the binge type of drinker and go out once or twice a week but when I go out I usually get so plastered I black out but I don't pass out. It's weird and scary. But then again I have some nights when I drink and I have a good time.
Giving up alcohol will be tough because all my friends drink. I recently broke up with my girlfriend and want to start dating. So going out to bars and clubs to meet woman will seem weird if I'm not drinking. Alcohol used to help me out when opening up and talking to strangers but now it seems to make my anxiety worse when I drink, until I get so smashed I don't know or remember what I said!
Any advice or comments would be appreciated.
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Madison
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I dont know how long you have been sober now, or if you have heard that in the begining of your sobriety, avoid people places and things that will trigger you to drink. I can relate to you alot. Drinking causes nothing but problems, it is a powerfull thing. I have never been a binge drinker or a one that has blackouts, but i would drink everyday, I was a functional alchy. Before you start dateing again or going out to anywhere there is alchol, you need more clean time, and even then you have to stay strong and not let it suck you back in. Believe in yourself and stay strong and you will get through. Being an alchy is a life long battle. I wish you the best and i hoped you. Good luck and keep posting
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...Welcome!The best suggestion I have for you is the read this
Blackouts are discussed on #35 but it's all interesting.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...influence.html
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those dreded morning after questions...
"What's your name again sweetie?" "Where am I?"
Do let us know how you are doing...
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Join Date: Jan 2007
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I have a lot of sujjestions. the firast one would be to do a lot of reading on this sight. Theis is just the beginning of your problem. Right now if you stop drinking you can lead a normal life with no bad repricusions. Do not do what a lot of us have done;continue drinking for many years, and effect the lives of the people we love in terrible ways.
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: anomaly
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Just put things in proper perspective , okay...
Do distinguish the differenent between your needs and wants.
You want to date.
Do you need to stay sober ?
You want someone or some place or something to remove your pains
so you don't have to deal with it. Not to process your emotions or work on
yourself.
Okay..it's not like I havn't gone bar hoping or clubing to meet women.
do distinguish this...you are not yourself when you're drunk..
yes, yes...to loosen myself up
mmm...I guess you're saying you wanna meet someone that's not
themselves either. it's okay to go to out...just don't fall in love if
you meet someone at a bar. becuase you'll really, really fooling yourself.
None of that stuff of.."she was really, really nice when I first met her"...
mmm...just a reminder...she's was drunk.lol
anyway, you gatta ponder this question.
why do you need alcohol in your life to live.???
Is it a need or a want ?
Do distinguish the differenent between your needs and wants.
You want to date.
Do you need to stay sober ?
You want someone or some place or something to remove your pains
so you don't have to deal with it. Not to process your emotions or work on
yourself.
Okay..it's not like I havn't gone bar hoping or clubing to meet women.
do distinguish this...you are not yourself when you're drunk..
yes, yes...to loosen myself up
mmm...I guess you're saying you wanna meet someone that's not
themselves either. it's okay to go to out...just don't fall in love if
you meet someone at a bar. becuase you'll really, really fooling yourself.
None of that stuff of.."she was really, really nice when I first met her"...
mmm...just a reminder...she's was drunk.lol
anyway, you gatta ponder this question.
why do you need alcohol in your life to live.???
Is it a need or a want ?
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: On a Beach Some Where
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Welcome to SR,
The sun is always shining above the clouds.
Good advice here on this site.
Take what you want and leave the rest.
The sun is always shining above the clouds.
Good advice here on this site.
Take what you want and leave the rest.
Last edited by whittenboy; 11-12-2007 at 08:54 AM. Reason: A little cloudy today myself
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