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Peace and blessings SR family,
Is it possible to be sponsored from this site?. I am not ready for outside meetings. My friends and family who do go to outside meetings are happy that I'm connected to recovery, but they keep stressing sponorship. They say I did 90 and 90, now its time for a sponsor.:wtf2
Also why is it so important, and is any one being sponsored from this site. Thank you. Be blessed in this day
Is it possible to be sponsored from this site?. I am not ready for outside meetings. My friends and family who do go to outside meetings are happy that I'm connected to recovery, but they keep stressing sponorship. They say I did 90 and 90, now its time for a sponsor.:wtf2
Also why is it so important, and is any one being sponsored from this site. Thank you. Be blessed in this day
"If you want what we have and are ready to go to any length to get it...."
A Cyber Sponsor sure seems like an easier softer way. You're either willing to go to any length or you're not. Suck it up, go to meetings and do what you're supposed to do!
Someday, God Willing, somebody is going to come to you for help. You need something to pass on to them, and if you say "I don't know, I did an Online Correspondence Course" you will be of little or no value to them in their quest for an answer. Bill said that we pay our debt to the program by passing it on and helping others to achieve sobriety. This is what this program is all about.
A Cyber Sponsor sure seems like an easier softer way. You're either willing to go to any length or you're not. Suck it up, go to meetings and do what you're supposed to do!
Someday, God Willing, somebody is going to come to you for help. You need something to pass on to them, and if you say "I don't know, I did an Online Correspondence Course" you will be of little or no value to them in their quest for an answer. Bill said that we pay our debt to the program by passing it on and helping others to achieve sobriety. This is what this program is all about.
I don't consider the online route "soft," Pinkcuda, I consider it practical, and a step towards the real thing. I have a severe social anxiety disorder, and "suck it up" more often than not leads to panic attacks, in my case. I feel that an online "sponsor" would help me build up to finding the courage for the real thing.
Don't want to cause conflict, just my $0.02.
Don't want to cause conflict, just my $0.02.
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A good Alcoholic can find loopholes all throughout the program.
I searched a Q&A site regarding AA. The response with regard to sponsorship follows.
Sponsorship in The Big Book.
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Question: Where is the role of a sponsor described in the Big Book?
Answer: I am not sure if there is a section on that but the chapter working with others may be very helpful to you.
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The actual word sponsor or sponsorship does not appear in the First 164 pages of the Big Book.
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Some say that everything in the Big Book from page 89 (the beginning of Chapter 7 - Working With Others) through Page 164 is the "sponsor's instruction manual".
The bottom of Page 18 includes a very long sentence that describes a sponsor.
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Question: Where is the role of a sponsor described in the Big Book?
Answer: I am not sure if there is a section on that but the chapter working with others may be very helpful to you.
_______________
The actual word sponsor or sponsorship does not appear in the First 164 pages of the Big Book.
_______________
Some say that everything in the Big Book from page 89 (the beginning of Chapter 7 - Working With Others) through Page 164 is the "sponsor's instruction manual".
The bottom of Page 18 includes a very long sentence that describes a sponsor.
That being said, there is nothing that says you can't have a temporary sponsor...matter of fact, it's often suggested...just to get the newcomer into the working of the steps. However, since the writing of the Big Book, much has changed, and we've become a computer-driven society. Who's to say, if a pc had been invented back then, we wouldn't all be using on-line sponsorship!?!
And, just for the record, if you read the Steps very carefully, I think you'll find it's absolutely possible to work them without an official sponsor. It isn't rocket science, folks. Also, there are many meetings devoted to studying/reviewing the Steps...lots of pamphlets describing the Steps, and how to work them.
The important thing, IMHO, is to work the Steps...with or without a sponsor
I withdraw the loophole statement. I do consider it an easier softer way however.
There are times that your Sponsor is going to tell you things that you don't really want to hear, but need to. There are times that your Sponsor is going to make you do things that you really don't want to, but have to. These things can be filtered through the computer and sure seem easier to me.
There are times that your Sponsor is going to tell you things that you don't really want to hear, but need to. There are times that your Sponsor is going to make you do things that you really don't want to, but have to. These things can be filtered through the computer and sure seem easier to me.
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We're both entitled to our opinions, and that's what makes the world go round.
Sponsors aren't infallible...they're only alcoholics helping other alcoholics...which is what everyone on this site is doing. In effect, we are all "sponsoring" each other, when you come right down to it.
The 12 and 12 spells out the Steps in great detail. Only someone who is totally illiterate would have any problems understanding what action each Step requires. And, as I pointed out above, there are many pamphlets covering the Steps (particularly 4 and 5, which could be the most difficult).
I still maintain, better to get right to working on the Steps, if the only thing in your way is finding a sponsor.
Sponsors aren't infallible...they're only alcoholics helping other alcoholics...which is what everyone on this site is doing. In effect, we are all "sponsoring" each other, when you come right down to it.
The 12 and 12 spells out the Steps in great detail. Only someone who is totally illiterate would have any problems understanding what action each Step requires. And, as I pointed out above, there are many pamphlets covering the Steps (particularly 4 and 5, which could be the most difficult).
I still maintain, better to get right to working on the Steps, if the only thing in your way is finding a sponsor.
Cathy
For the record....I do believe that there are times for "tough love"....but let's keep everything in perspective.
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