Please welcome loser123
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Join Date: Nov 2007
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Hi, I am new here and have found this thread after my AF came home v.drunk (it was 5.345pm!) spent a half hour screaming in my face and spitting at me.
I now just feel hollow, I have tried to kick him out but he refuses to leave and I have nowhere to go.
If it was just me I would make myself homeless but I have 2 boys.
I suppose I came on here because I have no one else to talk to.
I now just feel hollow, I have tried to kick him out but he refuses to leave and I have nowhere to go.
If it was just me I would make myself homeless but I have 2 boys.
I suppose I came on here because I have no one else to talk to.
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Michigan
Posts: 19
Now that you have your own thread, (thanks to who ever moved this) maybe someone will come along and help you out better than I can. The suggestions that I have found helpful so far are reading "Codependant No More", trying some alanon meetings and reading the stickies at the top of the forum. All have been very helpful to me.
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Wilmington, NC
Posts: 138
You are not a loser by any means - your husband is. Keep coming back to your thread and you will receive lots and lots of good advice! Get to a meeting, read the recommended books and find yourself. Protect those boys so they don't grow up just like him. I hate a mean drunk!!
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Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: OHIO
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I can't bring myself to call you by the name you chose.....hmmmm you are not a loser at all - he is.....and if he doesn't seek help he will lose everything that is anything. Like my XAH did. There are shelters to go to if you need them. I know that sounds drastic and sometimes us codependents (and thats what you are to) need a kick in the butt to get us out of dangerous situations. He spit on you huh? Is this the kind of man that you want as a role model for those two boys? I wouldn't think so. Remember kids are what they see growing up....never ever truer words were spoken. Show them the strong mother that they have and find a way to relocate or take the means to kick him out. Call the police and have him removed when he displays actions like this. Don't let him do these kind of things to you...remember always this:
You didnt cause it
You cant control it
You cant cure it
Keep coming back her okay...read, read and read somemore because knowledge is power.
Stay safe hunny. Click on any of our names to read our histories ok.
I can't bring myself to call you by the name you chose.....hmmmm you are not a loser at all - he is.....and if he doesn't seek help he will lose everything that is anything. Like my XAH did. There are shelters to go to if you need them. I know that sounds drastic and sometimes us codependents (and thats what you are to) need a kick in the butt to get us out of dangerous situations. He spit on you huh? Is this the kind of man that you want as a role model for those two boys? I wouldn't think so. Remember kids are what they see growing up....never ever truer words were spoken. Show them the strong mother that they have and find a way to relocate or take the means to kick him out. Call the police and have him removed when he displays actions like this. Don't let him do these kind of things to you...remember always this:
You didnt cause it
You cant control it
You cant cure it
Keep coming back her okay...read, read and read somemore because knowledge is power.
Stay safe hunny. Click on any of our names to read our histories ok.
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Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: England
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Why did you call yourself loser123? You are far from a loser, like what people above have said the only loser is your AF, abusing the mother of his children by spitting in your face?? You do NOT need to accept behaviour like this....you've come to the right place, to people who understand and to people who can help. Please read here as much as you can, knowledge is power....
From your post you sound very deflated and almost defeated, you can't change his behaviour unfortunately, only your own. Keep coming back x
From your post you sound very deflated and almost defeated, you can't change his behaviour unfortunately, only your own. Keep coming back x
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