ItalianGirl

I'm not even really sure where to begin - but it's ended.

He's not happy.
I'm not happy.
Why bother?


He's still doing his AA VERY faithfully, and I'm proud of him.
But we're done.




And no it wasn't alcohol related.

minnie

Sorry to hear that, hon.

Would it help to get it off your chest? If not, have some (((((hugs))))) instead. Or, indeed, as well.

Barbara52

{hugs}

I hope you pain eases.

denny57

(((ItalianGirl)))

tollbooth

Umm, so basically now your single?

**{extends handshake}} "Howyoudoin?" (in my worst Italian accent)


j/k

The sentence about being very proud of his AA recovery says to me the relationship has ended on a positive note, and I hope that at least you have grown from it.

ItalianGirl

Thanks guys ....


Ended in a good note? Ooook, if you want to call it that.
We've tried many time to "fix things" - but it's just not working. Last night he got mad because I tried to hold his hand at the store and I "know" he hates that ... Lovely.

Well today was a horrible day - and I didn't realize the human body was home to so many tears. I can't even open my mouth without crying. I had pull over on the highway just to bawl my eyes out.

We live together - so this is VERY hard.
When we met, it was literally love at first site - and I wish to hell we could have kept that love going that strong.
He's trying to pass a lot of the blame on me, but I know he's hurt, and that's okay. He knows what he's done wrong.

I just feel horrible. I mean really awful.

tollbooth

What I meant was that it sounded positive to me that you said your were proud of him being faithful to his AA. And since this a a website devoted to alcoholism and it affects, thats a good thing to say about someone, yes/no?

And I hope this isnt all about you giving him a little PDA!!!

minnie

Sometimes it is the little things that tip the balance into "that's it". I know that's how it was for me.

Sorry to hear you are feeling bad right now. What can you do to make even a little difference today? Phone call to a friend or family member, nice long soak in the bath, a funny movie, writing a letter to him that you never send but gets your thoughts out of your head?

Do I take it that he was the one to call it a day?

Pick-a-name

(((ig)))

Barbara52

So which one of you is moving out? When? Its not good for either of you to stay in that living arrangement I would think.

Again sorry you are in pain. It will get better with time.