Grateful Heart

Hi everone. There's a lady named Gloria that I met in AA who has recently stopped attending the meetings. I heard from another member that she's drinking again. I sent her an email a few days ago, asking her how she was doing but so far haven't heard from her. I know her phone number also...should I call her? Or should I just let her alone? Any suggestions will be appreciated. GH

Rowan

Nothing wrong with calling her, GH. Even if she doesn't pick up the phone, she might appreciate getting a message from you.
I've experienced this many times in recovery, and always make at least one call to let them know it's okay if they slipped, and to call anytime. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. It's hard when they don't, but I've learned that we truly can only carry the message, and not the alcoholic.
Good luck.

parentrecovers

i'd most likely call her. but i'm a codie, soooo....

either way, she's lucky to have such a caring person in her life.

hugs, k

tanyapmc

I would call her. She probably won't answer. Don't take that personally. If she is drinking she will be feeling guilty.

I have dealt with this alot.

SaTiT

Call her

if she's drunk, do a 12 step call on her.
That's bascailly how i got sober again after my relapsed.
My sponsee would just drive up and knock on the door everyday
and drag me to a meeting everyday. I didn't ocoperate at first
of course, but he bascailly saved my life. He bascailly had to
carry me through the first month, bascailly do things for me
that i wouldn't do for myself. Bascailly a lot of fellowshiping
after meetings, but moslty because we became friends over the
years.

Then I had to returned the favor of course, but he's my friend.

Missymae737

Hi,

Yes, by all means call her...

I have done this and didn't get a return call...The important thing is I let her know I care and there is still hope...

Your desire to be of support doesn't go unnoticed...Good for you in giving back to those who stray...

CarolD

Yes...do call.

If she is drinking ask your sponsor for help
in making a personal 12 Step call.
Read "How It Works" in our BB.
Do not attempt a visit alone if she's drinking.

But Yes! please let her know you care.

Prayers for you and Gloria

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA

I've come across this a few times. You WANT to go over a grab them, throw them in the car, and take them to a meeting. My sponsor said that other than calling, once, that's pretty much all you can do.

Karen

Anna

I think it's always important for someone to know that you care about them and are thinking about them.