today he asked
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today he asked
well i live down here in south texas and we has a cold front move in. my ex husband has been living out of his car. i have been so proud of myself because i have not enabled him. well it is easy to not enable if they don't ask. today he asked. he called and asked for a pillow and blanket because it is getting cold. I SAID NO!!!
i am so proud of myself. today was another day that i did not enable.
thanks to all of you.....you continue to give me more strength than you could ever know.
i am 6 days 18hrs and 42 mins clean from enabling!!!!
blessings to all of you!
dustie
i am so proud of myself. today was another day that i did not enable.
thanks to all of you.....you continue to give me more strength than you could ever know.
i am 6 days 18hrs and 42 mins clean from enabling!!!!
blessings to all of you!
dustie
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Wow.....I don't know what to say. You are really tough.
I need to learn from you instead of you learning from me. Just because I've been here longer than you doesn't mean anything.
You go girl........Lo
I need to learn from you instead of you learning from me. Just because I've been here longer than you doesn't mean anything.
You go girl........Lo
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Stumbling toward happiness
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Pillow and blanket at the second hand store = less than three bucks around here.
If he wants it, he can get it easily. Much easier to lean on you and make you feel guilty though...
You're working hard, dustie, I can tell!
Hugs,
GL
If he wants it, he can get it easily. Much easier to lean on you and make you feel guilty though...
You're working hard, dustie, I can tell!
Hugs,
GL
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: princeton, ma
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I am okay with saying no, it's others calling me a witch
good for you Dustie! Every time you can make that kind of decision you are healing yourself and taking control of you life. It's about what you need and the boundaries you set, not everyone sees it that way sometimes because the addicts are 'sick' and they 'can't help it'. I guess I'm saying I'm for you making decisions that can change your life starting today. Keep on believing in yourself
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Dustie,
Good for you....there is a place for him to go, the Salvation Army has beds, blankets, pillows and food. So, if he decides to move indoors, he has an option.
You might be suprised to eventually find out that he has all the items he was requesting, addicts are very resiliant, and are very manipulating, they do know how to play anothers heart strings.
Keep your resolve, one minute, one hour, one day at a time.
Hugs,
Dolly
Good for you....there is a place for him to go, the Salvation Army has beds, blankets, pillows and food. So, if he decides to move indoors, he has an option.
You might be suprised to eventually find out that he has all the items he was requesting, addicts are very resiliant, and are very manipulating, they do know how to play anothers heart strings.
Keep your resolve, one minute, one hour, one day at a time.
Hugs,
Dolly
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