I will miss you Patrick
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I will miss you Patrick
Here is an email I sent to a friend, names omitted. We just went to a mutual friends service today. He was only 37. He committed suicide. He did have an issue with alcohol.
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Hi (my friend, who I worked with a year ago)
It was good to see you guys too. I can't shake the feeling like calling Patrick and saying "Hello Patrick!!!! Do you realize what they are all saying right now? They are saying your dead!!!"
I just feel like if I call him, he is going to pick up the phone and say "What? What are they saying? Of course not!" Shaking his head in a funny no look.
I hate to realize its the end. I hate to know that his poor children will not know him.
(My SO) and I are more of the pleasure boat people. We would really love to come out with you two. Loosing Patrick makes me realize how important it is to keep our friends close.
I have the (important thing) coming up soon, but REALLY, REALLY please, we would love to go out on the boat, or for dinner.
Take care (friend),
SoberSilly
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I will miss my friend terribly. We were not "drinking buddies" we were both extreme professionals at a large corporation making lots of money. We did both have the "drinking problem" which just wrecked his life, and is really trying to wreck mine.
I saw on a different thread someone who said "Why is that guy in an AA meeting?"
You can be the most polished, accomplished, and over achiever and still have an issue with alcohol.
My friend graduated from an Ivy League college. I have a nice degree myself. I am so, so horrified by what happened.
My friend, Patrick, I wish you peace now, and I know that your family, and your wifes family will take good care of your children. I am sorry that I wasn't able to do anything.
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Hi (my friend, who I worked with a year ago)
It was good to see you guys too. I can't shake the feeling like calling Patrick and saying "Hello Patrick!!!! Do you realize what they are all saying right now? They are saying your dead!!!"
I just feel like if I call him, he is going to pick up the phone and say "What? What are they saying? Of course not!" Shaking his head in a funny no look.
I hate to realize its the end. I hate to know that his poor children will not know him.
(My SO) and I are more of the pleasure boat people. We would really love to come out with you two. Loosing Patrick makes me realize how important it is to keep our friends close.
I have the (important thing) coming up soon, but REALLY, REALLY please, we would love to go out on the boat, or for dinner.
Take care (friend),
SoberSilly
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I will miss my friend terribly. We were not "drinking buddies" we were both extreme professionals at a large corporation making lots of money. We did both have the "drinking problem" which just wrecked his life, and is really trying to wreck mine.
I saw on a different thread someone who said "Why is that guy in an AA meeting?"
You can be the most polished, accomplished, and over achiever and still have an issue with alcohol.
My friend graduated from an Ivy League college. I have a nice degree myself. I am so, so horrified by what happened.
My friend, Patrick, I wish you peace now, and I know that your family, and your wifes family will take good care of your children. I am sorry that I wasn't able to do anything.
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I have a degree and a corporate job and when I go along to meetings in my suit and pearls, some people may think I don't belong. But I do.
I am sorry to hear about your friend. I hope you will be able to recover from your problem.
I am sorry to hear about your friend. I hope you will be able to recover from your problem.
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It is horrifying the amount of deaths that alcohol and drug addiction cause. There is a solution and we do not need to suffer or die - at our own hands or at the hands of alcohol or drugs.
There IS a solution.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is tragic and needless and just so pointless, hopefully it might make someone somewhere earnestly seek recovery.
Cathy31
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There IS a solution.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is tragic and needless and just so pointless, hopefully it might make someone somewhere earnestly seek recovery.
Cathy31
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Thanks all. I just still sit back and can't believe he did it. Its hard. It was such a nice day here today, and all I could think about for him is that its over, and he will not get to enjoy a nice day again.
I keep going why, why. There is no reasoning for suicide. Things change as time goes on. He couldn't see that, he felt like nothing was ever going to get better for him.
It bothers me a lot. He was going to move to Europe, but his main concern was leaving his kids. Well, he can't be any farther away from them now.
I keep going why, why. There is no reasoning for suicide. Things change as time goes on. He couldn't see that, he felt like nothing was ever going to get better for him.
It bothers me a lot. He was going to move to Europe, but his main concern was leaving his kids. Well, he can't be any farther away from them now.
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The simple truth is we don't all make it, Sobersilly.
The realization that this is a fatal disease comes at one point or the other to each of us in whatever way HP makes it happen. I try to apply the loss of each person as incentive to live my own live to its fullest and catch every sunrise and sunset that I can.
Thank you for continuing to post ... and for the reminder.
The realization that this is a fatal disease comes at one point or the other to each of us in whatever way HP makes it happen. I try to apply the loss of each person as incentive to live my own live to its fullest and catch every sunrise and sunset that I can.
Thank you for continuing to post ... and for the reminder.
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Originally Posted by merlotmamma 
I'll share something that my friend Eddie said to me after I shared about losing my mom to cirrhosis:
"Sometimes one alcoholic has to lose the battle so another can win"
Karen
"Sometimes one alcoholic has to lose the battle so another can win"
Karen
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