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I can't take it any more. I just can't.
My heart can't take any more. My 3 year old can't take this crap anymore.
I am not strong enough for this.
I feel like screaming and throwing things. I just don't understand. i just don't.
i just can't.
he thinks because he doesn't actually hurt me he is okay. he blames me and says horrible things to me.
I can't even say what I feel, i dont know what i feel.
tonight is a new low.
My heart can't take any more. My 3 year old can't take this crap anymore.
I am not strong enough for this.
I feel like screaming and throwing things. I just don't understand. i just don't.
i just can't.
he thinks because he doesn't actually hurt me he is okay. he blames me and says horrible things to me.
I can't even say what I feel, i dont know what i feel.
tonight is a new low.
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(((luvmyfam)))
It's ok to let it out here! Vent all you need to. We understand!
Words hurt, and, no, that's not ok!
I found it soooo difficult not to take my ex's horrid comments to me personally too! It wasn't until much later after we split that I realized his words were mirroring what he thought of himself, not me! He loathed himself. But all that time, I thought he loathed me.
Sometimes luv, we all reach our limits. Perhaps you are approaching yours?
Keep venting with us. It's good to get it out.
It's ok to let it out here! Vent all you need to. We understand!
Words hurt, and, no, that's not ok!
I found it soooo difficult not to take my ex's horrid comments to me personally too! It wasn't until much later after we split that I realized his words were mirroring what he thought of himself, not me! He loathed himself. But all that time, I thought he loathed me.
Sometimes luv, we all reach our limits. Perhaps you are approaching yours?
Keep venting with us. It's good to get it out.
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i feel like this is all my fault. i moved to Ireland and I was so homesick. when we got married he moved over here for me.
he blames me for missing his family. missing his home. and i feel responsible. i can't help it.
i dont know what to do or what to say. i wish someone would just tell me what to do.
he blames me for missing his family. missing his home. and i feel responsible. i can't help it.
i dont know what to do or what to say. i wish someone would just tell me what to do.
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Well, you could start by taking a few deep breaths!
It must be difficult for each of you to be away from family and the place each of you calls home. I can certainly understand that.
It sounds as though you both were in agreement to make the move. If he's not happy, then he's not happy. But I assume he was 50% responsible in the decision making to make the move. I suspect he doesn't see it that way right now though.
Anyway, one of the things I'm putting into practice is not sticking around when someone decides to become verbally abusive towards me. I'll either leave the room, the house, hang-up the phone...you get the idea. Think something like that could work for you?
It must be difficult for each of you to be away from family and the place each of you calls home. I can certainly understand that.
It sounds as though you both were in agreement to make the move. If he's not happy, then he's not happy. But I assume he was 50% responsible in the decision making to make the move. I suspect he doesn't see it that way right now though.
Anyway, one of the things I'm putting into practice is not sticking around when someone decides to become verbally abusive towards me. I'll either leave the room, the house, hang-up the phone...you get the idea. Think something like that could work for you?
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Hold on there hunny......deep breaths.....breath in breath out....
They can be such butts cant they? It can't be easy for either of you and because you two are so far from home you have to stick together....he better get a grip....hurting with words cut deeper than people realize. My ex didn't hit me physically either but boy what he could do with words......he was such an a$$.
Can you explain more of what happened hun? It helps to get it off your chest.
Hold on there hunny......deep breaths.....breath in breath out....
They can be such butts cant they? It can't be easy for either of you and because you two are so far from home you have to stick together....he better get a grip....hurting with words cut deeper than people realize. My ex didn't hit me physically either but boy what he could do with words......he was such an a$$.
Can you explain more of what happened hun? It helps to get it off your chest.
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