helluvagalnva

Hello Everyone!!

Just wanted to give you a little update. Things are going really well for me. Yesterday, I accepted a new job offer in my field which is purchasing. I am so excited I start in two weeks.

My children are doing very well. My oldest just turned 11 this week and received the Presidental Academic Achivement Award at school and moving up to middle school with honors. I'm very proud - I guess I'm a good mom afterall.

My ex is still in jail until probably August. No child support but things are working out okay. One day at a time. I know this may sound bad but I'm really glad he went to jail and is still there. That time had really helped me a great deal to put things into perspective. It's given me the opportunity to "let go". I realize I can still care for him and want the best but don't want to be with him any longer. Before he would call and I felt like I had to talk to him which kept me in the same place for years. When I stopped talking to him - it made things clearer to me and I wasn't always in this state of confusion. Never knowing what I was doing or if it was the right thing.

Even the children are doing better since they haven't seen their father. He used to call all the time and I felt like I had to except the calls then I decided the ball was in my court I didn't have too so then I started just hanging up and not excepting his calls. Once I did it a couple of times it got easier then he just stopped calling all together.

He will be served with divorce papers as soon as he gets out. I was going back and forth about divorce for a long time but one day I woke up and it was so clear to me that I was filing for divorce and I felt good about my decision. That's when I knew it was the right thing for me to do. It just took a lot of time but that's okay - that was just what I needed for me.

I've been reading and catching up on things this morning.
I've missed all of you. I use alot of things you guys say in my everyday life and I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I hope everyone has a great day!!!!

Love Ya,
Galnva

lyn_blossom78

Good to "see" ya! So glad to hear things are going well for you--thanks for bringing us up to date. Enjoy your peace!

Lyn

Gabe

So glad to read your update. I bet you never thought that your husband going to jail would be a positive turning point in your life. How's that for a silver lining to a grey cloud? I'm happy to hear that you and the kids are doing well. I hope the sun continues to shine into your life.
Peace,
Gabe

Ann

Galnva

I'm glad to see you too, and so happy for you that your life is taking a good turn - you deserve happiness and peace.

Don't be a stranger. Come back and share a little how you got through this. We love happy endings.

Tigeress

Hopefully, one day I can do the same.

Sarah2003

Galnva,

Congrats on your new job! And that's fabulous news about your son earning the Presidential Achievement Award. That a very high honor, and few students receive it. You should be very proud.

It sounds like this time apart from your husband has provided an opportunity to get healthy withour him around.

I've been separated from my AH for four months now, but he is constantly around. It's difficult working on my recovery when he's always here. I'm trying to set those boundaries.

Take care,

S

Debbie

******{Galnva}}}}}}

Thanks for the update. You sound good. Hope things continue to go well for you

Take care and come back and see us more often.

Many hugs,
Debbie

prettywoman

GOOD FOR YOU!!! Keep up the great work and remember to do it one day at a time and it does work!! Many many blessing to you and yours:-)

helluvagalnva

Thanks to all for your continued support and kind words of wisdom.

I don't know what the turning point for me was exactly. I just woke up one day and knew I was differnet somehow. Maybe it was me visiting my ex in jail and looking around to see all those people with nothing that made me realize I had so much more and it was about time I started appreciating the positive things in my life.

I know I'm a good, loving, loyal, honest person and a great mother. I now don't really care what others think or say about me - it's what I think and say that matters. Don't get me wrong I still have moments where I find myself starting to obsess over things that are out of my control. Then I just remember and repeat over and over the serenity prayer and everything feels all better.

I'm nervous about starting my new job but I just turn it all over to my higher power and I know he will lead the way. I know my HP is there for me and won't let me down.

Love to all,
Galnva

prettywoman

I am so proud of you! It is normal to be nervous and it is going to be just fine. One day at a time!

liddy

when we know that we know that our serenity comes
above all else then our lives can move on as we take care of us.
you have done that ! flashbacks? we can still move on.

peace and hugs
liddy

Morning Glory

Hi Galnva,

Good to see you. Sounds like things are looking up for you. I'm really glad. Stop in more often.


Hugs,
MG