Back and scared
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Back and scared
Finally I am coming back to recovery. I have lost myself cause I relapsed. I am scared cause I dont want to go back to drinking and i need help. I have lost alot cause of my drinking and now I am ready to live life on lifes terms. Drinking caused me to go to jail and some other not so good things. i am in AA and go to counseling. Is there any advice I can get so i dont relapse and keep go on the right path.
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All we can do is to stay into the now. This isn't a easy deal to do but it is doable. I never thought that I would make it over 5 days and today I have acquired quite a few of those 5 days with the help of many. Knowing that I can not do this deal alone helps. Sending all best thoughts your way.
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Welcome back..I am back too. I have found that I can not let my guard down. Not for a minute.
I also have to cut off any and all thoughts of using before they even get a chance to make a thought in my head. And really...Take it day by day. Dont get ahead of yourself and just for the NOW if you have to.
I hope it works out for you this round.
I also have to cut off any and all thoughts of using before they even get a chance to make a thought in my head. And really...Take it day by day. Dont get ahead of yourself and just for the NOW if you have to.
I hope it works out for you this round.
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Keep with the AA and counseling and good luck.What you've said reminds me that it only takes a few seconds to slip up so you have to keep your safeguards in place to help you battle on.I try to make short term plans and to keep busy and i think that even though i haven't made a big deal of this with family to stop drinking,privately i don't want to let myself and them down.
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Join Date: Sep 2007
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WB Shemp! I've been hearing alot lately about how relapse is part of recovery....my point being most of us have been there and are now enjoying continuous sobriety. So.....keep coming back
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Originally Posted by shemp 
Drinking caused me to go to jail and some other not so good things. i am in AA and go to counseling. Is there any advice I can get so i dont relapse and keep go on the right path.
Read. This whole board is filled with advice & stories... seek out the wisdom and experience of others and try to implement some of that into your life.
Good Luck.
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Glad you're back, Shemp. You and I are two of the fortunate ones...not everybody makes it back!
Sorry...I don't agree with this philosophy...and, I think it's a cop-out and/or justification. I set myself up for my relapse, after four months of "sobriety"...I was working the program, but only half-a$$ed...and got involved with another alcoholic way too early in my so-called recovery. I was a relapse waiting to happen; and, surprise, surprise!
I prefer to emphasize what I heard after I got back into AA (with a vengeance)...Relapse is not a prerequisite for recovery. You don't have to relapse to prove to yourself that you don't have to relapse.
As for being scared, Shemp...fear is an absence of faith. Have faith in yourself, AA, and your counsellor...do the right thing and the right thing will happen.
I've been hearing alot lately about how relapse is part of recovery
I prefer to emphasize what I heard after I got back into AA (with a vengeance)...Relapse is not a prerequisite for recovery. You don't have to relapse to prove to yourself that you don't have to relapse.
As for being scared, Shemp...fear is an absence of faith. Have faith in yourself, AA, and your counsellor...do the right thing and the right thing will happen.
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Join Date: Sep 2007
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Good luck to you - I am scared too. I know what that feels like. The vulnerability is awful - it is almost a physical pain, eventhough we know it is emotional. Try something pleasurable - I take bubble baths and listen to soothing music. I close my eyes and just drift away and somehow the urge to drink goes away. Or I go for a walk with my dog and just get fresh air. Exercise helps. Stay away from situations that trigger your need, like parties, bars, etc. Read a good book - it can take you away and make you travel to another place in your mind. Learn to knit. Keep posting here - it will make the time pass, give you something to do, and get that pain out of your soul. Good luck to you....
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Join Date: Sep 2007
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Hi Shemp. Way to go on coming back. We've all been here and we all understand being scared. I live in the Midwest also. Won't say where, but, Go Vikes!!! and I've also lost everything. In fact, I just got back from home because someone here at work gave me a coffe table. I didn't have one. Point is Sometimes Ithink we have to lose to realize that "yeah, this disease is only taking from me, and unless I get it under control and stop losing to it, it will keep taking from me until I have nothing.
I'm 9 days sober and I'm already gaining. It doesn't take long.
All we have to do is not use for today.
Good luck and welcome back
I'm 9 days sober and I'm already gaining. It doesn't take long.
All we have to do is not use for today.
Good luck and welcome back
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