How...How...How????
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How...How...How????
How can a someone that has been severely binge drinking for 5 years suddenly become a social drinker after just a few AA mtgs and a month of therapy???....My ex has been a binge drinker for several yrs, every week or two (at the max) would drink for 2-3 days straight. I forced him to go to AA, which he did 3 times and then to see this psycho-healer for a 3 day retreat. I left him after that, just didn't want the rollercoaster. But the last 2 months, he seems to be fine now. Looks much better, is now all into hiking, is going out and partying alot, but seems to be able to control himself. No more missing work because of drinking.
I saw him at a wedding on Sat and through the night he had about 5-6 drinks, he also smoked -since his tolerance is so high, the drinks didn't faze him. The next day he sent me photos of some hike he went on so I know he didn't go home and continue his drinking. How can this be? Was he not an alcoholic then? How can he now have drinks but stop at a certain point with really no support network in place?
Somethings have not changed though! He still seems emotionally totally disconnected, constantly only talks about himself, can't have more than a 5 min conversation with anyone before getting bored and moving to the next person. So still seems like he is searching for some form of happiness! Just don't get it!!
I saw him at a wedding on Sat and through the night he had about 5-6 drinks, he also smoked -since his tolerance is so high, the drinks didn't faze him. The next day he sent me photos of some hike he went on so I know he didn't go home and continue his drinking. How can this be? Was he not an alcoholic then? How can he now have drinks but stop at a certain point with really no support network in place?
Somethings have not changed though! He still seems emotionally totally disconnected, constantly only talks about himself, can't have more than a 5 min conversation with anyone before getting bored and moving to the next person. So still seems like he is searching for some form of happiness! Just don't get it!!
Last edited by rosie323; 09-17-2007 at 09:36 AM.
That's why it doesn't matter if the drinker is alcoholic or not - turn it around and ask is this the life I want/wanted for ME? What have you been doing for yourself while he's been going to meetings and therapy?
Pshaaaaaaaaaaawwwwwww,,,,,
That's all I can say to that rosie!!!
Yup, for sure my XA had a knack for making things with him seem "rosie" (pardon the pun) whenever I choose to put some "boundary's" in place. And dang it, if he actually DIDN'T look better than when he was being STUPID with me!!!!
But then again, he ALWAYS cleaned up nicely,,,he,he,he
He was a liar when he was active, he continued to be one when he was "social".
Not my concern however. I found it made him crazier when I didn't CARE anymore, put myself first and STOPPED all contact,,,then he couldn't dance that particular dance with me anymore,,,
But hey,,thats just me,,I'm a hippie, we bounce,,,,,
Peace
That's all I can say to that rosie!!!
Yup, for sure my XA had a knack for making things with him seem "rosie" (pardon the pun) whenever I choose to put some "boundary's" in place. And dang it, if he actually DIDN'T look better than when he was being STUPID with me!!!!
But then again, he ALWAYS cleaned up nicely,,,he,he,he
He was a liar when he was active, he continued to be one when he was "social".
Not my concern however. I found it made him crazier when I didn't CARE anymore, put myself first and STOPPED all contact,,,then he couldn't dance that particular dance with me anymore,,,
But hey,,thats just me,,I'm a hippie, we bounce,,,,,
Peace
An A's reality is not reality at all. My AH, "Oh, I had two beers" but to him two beers is 6 beers, and so on.
Nothing is the truth, nothing is real. That's why it's so confusing to be involved with one. UGH
Nothing is the truth, nothing is real. That's why it's so confusing to be involved with one. UGH
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this is exactly why
He still seems emotionally totally disconnected, constantly only talks about himself, can't have more than a 5 min conversation with anyone before getting bored and moving to the next person. So still seems like he is searching for some form of happiness! Just don't get it!!
How can a someone that has been severely binge drinking for 5 years suddenly become a social drinker after just a few AA mtgs and a month of therapy???
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