krhea75

If you all remember, my son is in rehab for the 5th time, this time court ordered. A week or so ago, his counselor called and said his drug test was positive. Of course he denied it, said the drug company must have made a mistake. He's been hanging on to this lie for a while. I quit calling him, told him I wouldn't go see him this week-end or take him on pass next weekend. i told him I wasn't driving 2 hours to talk to a liar. He finally called me tonight and admitted to using while he was on his pass. I don't know if he just said that to get me over there. But I am relieved. In owning up to it, it shows that he cares more about me and himself than that addiction. It's been a hellish week, him crying on the phone,me hanging up. But I think it was for the best. He has two weeks left in rehab and then off to a recovery house. I will go see him tomorrow, thankful for another step forward. One day at a time.
krhea

Mertzie

That's great. I'm so happy for you that he is moving in the right direction. Hugs

sobercuse

Looks like my son will be leaving jail and going directly to a long term inpatient rehab. This is his fifth too...I've lost count.

There is a balance that we must find between detaching with love and loving him just the same.

It is very difficult as we learn about the disease of addiction. If he had cancer we could buy him pajamas and fluff his pillows.

But, with addiction we have to detach.
This is tough on us Moms.

bookmiser

((((((Krhea)))))))

I know how hard this is for you.
Just wanted to send out my support and prayers for you and your son.
It took a long time for my son to admit to a lie, as well.
Just love him and support his recovery. Sending prayers that this is his time.
I think you did awesome.

Love ya,
Linda

hope213

i am glad he admitted up to it.that is a step in the right direction. hopefully he will "get it" before he completely finishes the rehab & half way house.keep us posted. you are coming right along on your recovery. prayers for you both.

parentrecovers

mom hugs, krhea. i like what you told him about not driving 2 hours to talk to a liar. that's a pretty powerful message..

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ladyamalthea

I'm so glad he came around. It shows that he must be making progress. And, since he's sober now, maybe he actually learned something from the hellish week he had because of his lie.

*hugs*

greeteachday

(((((krhea)))))
Just hugs...Know the pain and the anxiety of this time...Prayers for you both.

justjo

So hard when its our children. I have known about my sons addiction for many years and he admitted it years ago. The problem was, it took me along time to admit he was an 'addict'. Eventually tough love has moved him out of our home because we couldnt deal with it another day longer.
I hope it is different for your son. You did the right thing! The tougher you get, he will realize he is on his own and you will not run to his rescue everytime. He must be responsible all by himself now.
Good Luck

laketime

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