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Old 08-29-2007, 02:15 PM
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getting rid of "triggers" ????

Im looking around and there are things that I do when Im drunk. One of my faverite things is too listen to music loud and was wondering as I dont listen to music much when Im sober weather i should get rid of all the music. I actualy spoke to steph ( our Pilgrim) and thanks Steph you where a real help. I found the date of our local AA meeting its this Tuesday so theres no excuse I know the day.
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Old 08-29-2007, 02:21 PM
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I don't know if it's possible for me to get rid of all the triggers ang, but AA and the 12 Steps give me the tools to cope with them. I guess it sort of lessens the effect they used to have.
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Old 08-29-2007, 02:52 PM
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Why not put the "drunk" music on mute for awhile?
I did that to my collection of Jazz
as it made me yearn for the ambeince.

I still enjoyed other types....

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Old 08-29-2007, 04:55 PM
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Give it a break if it's a trigger for you right now Ang... just don't listen to it. Personally I wouldn't get rid of any of my music collection as I feel that music is healing even though I've done my share of listening while drunked up. I've never found it to be a problem for me. Maybe in time you can get back to it .
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Old 08-29-2007, 05:56 PM
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personally, I think if listening to music is something you like to do when you're already drunk, it's not a trigger Ang. Triggers are the things that..well..trigger the initial impetus to get wasted.

I used to watch TV when I was drunk, but watching it other times never made me want to drink (well, ok being awake made me want to drink, but that's beside the point....)

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Old 08-29-2007, 06:15 PM
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gawd if i got rid of all the triggers in my life, i might as well not live!! hahaha...everyday i drive by the bistro that i used to hang out, or the liquor store i used to buy wine from, or talk to my best friends that i loved to drink with, or the problems at work "that made me drink" ahahhaah...for me and just for me, triggers were nothing but excuses to drink!! once i recognized that alcohol was the problem and not the solution, those things i called triggers really dont bother me anymore!! now instead i come on here, call my spons, go to a meeting, or if i cant do any of the above i take a time out and say the third step prayer!!
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Old 08-29-2007, 06:17 PM
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Can someone say "husband"... ? Gotta work with those triggers sometimes.
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Old 08-29-2007, 06:24 PM
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Yeah, I think it's some of both. Clearly for me, I cannot get rid of all the triggers. My biggest trigger was being alone. So, I had to work with that. But, maybe changing the type of music you're listening to for awhile would help.
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Old 08-29-2007, 06:27 PM
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Hi,

I enjoy music better sober...I actually understand most of what I am hearing..Plus, I don't make an a** out of myself on the dance floor...

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Old 08-29-2007, 07:07 PM
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ang-don't throw out your music! I can't live without it myself.

Maybe just don't play the stuff that you associate with drinking for a while?

Glad you spoke to Steph

I'm thinking of you,

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Old 08-29-2007, 08:29 PM
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Hi Ang! Always happy to read your posts and to look at the little one.

I'm actually using music to help me beat this and to lift my spirits or get me to thinkin' a bit -- motivational stuff you might say.

Some of my favorites right now...
Hallelujah (Rufus Wainwright, Jeff Buckley or k.d. Lang version -- I have them all)
Tracy Chapman: Change, Be and Be not Afraid, All That You Have Is Your Soul
Joan Osborne: One of Us
The Poozies: Another Train

There's a wonderful thread on this very forum that touches on this... I don't really know how to copy it, though.

Anyway -- Turn the music into ammunition, a tool, a means of beating this, Ang!

Hugs to you way over there across the water...
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Old 08-29-2007, 09:00 PM
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thanks all for the help......I feel empty today Ive left the wine bottle on the window sill I want to be reminded that Im powerless agaisnt alcohol and that it is there to motivate me and that it will be the last bottle in this house. Nice to see you again Jules :0) Im sure Ill be better tomnorrow take care
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Old 08-29-2007, 09:14 PM
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more power to ya Ang !!
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Old 08-29-2007, 09:17 PM
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I don't like to listen to songs that have drinking in them. It may be that some or many of the songs you have glorify drinking and that could be a trigger for you.
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Old 08-29-2007, 09:26 PM
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For me being a housewife I did everything drunk. My cleaning, cooking, reading, sewing, video games, music, you name it. Personal though i did stop drinking Coke-a-cola for a while because that was my drink of choice with rum. Also the song by George Thorogood "I drink alone". I don't listen to that anymore. Because that was me.

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