Mr. Christian

About a week ago I received a call from the Ex wife, she also came by for a visit. Not a long one but I was very curious to say the least on why.

It was more like a pit stop on her world tour.

She seemed ver calm and really did not talk too much about herself accept for the fact that she was dealing with all her legal issues including the court mandated drug and alcohol program.

I was able although to find out about how my stepson was doing.
She asked an interesting question.
She wondered if I had anyone in my life at this time because she did not want to interfere.
I told her no, I dated but no one was really in my life at this time.
I asked why she asked and she never really gave a reply.

She did however tell me she was moving again, I think it’s like the 6th time.
This time with a girl friend.

Well in the last few days I did get some text messages from her and then yesterday a call to ask how I was doing.

Well the truth came out about 1am in the morning with a call.
I did not pick it up but she left a message.

She asked if she could stay with me, on my sofa.

She also said I should not get any ideas that she just needed a place to stay and she did not need any pressure.


Ok gang well this tops it all.

Can you picture me bringing a date home and saying, “Oh this is my ex wife”.
Not to mention the fact that if she would stay for at least 30 days I could never get rid of her.
Oh yeah the little fact that she is not work a program!



Ok, ok .. wait, nah I’m not that stupid!

guyinNC

You know the answer to that Mr. C! Hell no! Here is 20 bucks for a cab! LOL

chero

Well, Mr. C, in case you needed a reminder what you aren't missing....there you go!

Seriously, that scenario sounds like an episode of friends!

Mr. Christian

Sometimes I just shake my head....

hbb

ExA's are pretty gutsy people when need be!!

splendra

Is she doing all this moving around with a child n tow? I hope the child has some stability...

Pick-a-name

I guess what Toby Rice Drews says (in Getting Them Sober) is true; at least in your case it IS hard to "lose" an alcoholic.....

Glad you were able to get an update about your stepson.

Rella927

Not surprising!

Way to go for sticking that foot down!

Cynay

You know what is so beautiful about all this....

YOU ARE!!!!!!!

Your growth and recovery. When I met you Mr. C .... that would not have been your response. Let me be the first to say CONGRADS!!!!!!!

Your recovery is shinning through.

keepingmyjoy

Wow, I just want to shake my head....it just reminds me that they are so totally in LA LA Land, because if they weren't, they would realize how outrageous a request like that is! Thanks for sharing. It is good to see others taking care of themselves... nicely done.

CE Girl

What do you mean Mr C? You can't give a "hand up"?!?!?!?!?

Like bad pennies,,they keep turning up,,,

I got visions of my XA coming up my drive with his walker, asking me to be his sponsor,,,he,he,he,,,,

Recovery is amazing isn't it? The world is not so black and white anymore, clarity brings all kinds of colors,,,

Peace to you Mr C,,and I'm glad you got info on your stepson. Hope all is well with him,,,

Peace

Jazzman

Unbelievable man!

respektingme

During the day she told you she was moving.
Then at night, she told you that your couch was her destination.

That's too much. Kudos to you for not answering the phone.

an'ka

Gutsy and.....vain. To assume that you'd be right there, trying to slip back into her "good graces". Geez.

parentrecovers

they just never give up............

steve11694

Greetings Mr christian,

gutsy, but par for the course. My wife had been less than a social drinker for a few years. When she crossed the line into overt alcohol addiction, her entire persona changed. She became the life of the party, almost every night at a couple of local bar/nightclubs. I became suddenly too dull for her. One morning she woke me up and said;
"i want to be free, can you let me go, but i have no place to go so can I stay with you since you have to pay the bills anyway?

That was before I even knew I was dealing with alcoholism or educated myself about it. That was truly "mind blowing"

hadenoughnow

This part just blows me away

WantsOut

It's not the asking that gets me ... maybe she's down and out or just missing you or the security of your past life together. I don't fault people for asking for help when they're in pain, even if it's irrational and the answer is obviously going to be "no". Pain causes people to do wacky things.

It's the "don't get any ideas and I don't need any pressure" part that is so galling. Talk about living in Lalaland .... what a selfish being.

Wascally Wabbit

I knew this was coming before I finished reading.
I knew she was going to want to come back home.
They get all pitiful when they have to start doing things for themselves. They then tell you they have no where to stay, and THEN, have the nerve to tell YOU how it's going to work while they stay with you!!

Mr. Christian

Thank you all for writing.

Drum roll please……………..UPDATE:


So she calls me back and asked me “What’s up?”

What’s up? What do you mean you called me at 1:30 am and I wake up at 4:30 to go to work.
So she tells me decided to go back to her parents house to stay, even though they drive her nuts.
I told her it would be best that flopping at my place would be kinda weird.


She then tells me she really is not ready for a new relationship at this time. Since her new love did not work out.

OH GOD OH GOD OH GOD OH GOD…..


She still has not come up with the cash to get into her drug program which means her hunt for a place to stay will be short lived. The state hotel will be putting her up awhile.
At least it will be 3 squares a day and I’m sure she’ll meet a whole different kind of love during her visit.


Yep life is good.