I did it.. But, its hard
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Quinlan, TX
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I did it.. But, its hard
Well, as most of you know I was looking for a house. Me and the girls moved over the weekend. I have spoke to my ah. And he makes me feel so guilty. But, I am sticking to my path. It hurts alot. and I am nervous but, I know I am going to be okay. And now if he stays sober or not is his choice. I told him this isn't what I wanted but I wasn't going to enable him any more. I would help him if he wants to be sober but thats it. everyone keep me in your prayer please.. He has told me all kinds of things. Promising the moon.. BUt, I told him no drugs for at least 6 months and then we can talk about things...
Thanks everyone for all the support I get here.
Thanks everyone for all the support I get here.
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You're a wonderful mom and a strong woman. Wow!!!! Gosh, I know how hard it is...I promise that it WILL get easier with time if you are both protective and tender with yourself.
Congratulations for doing what was right -- and for recognizing the "promise you the moon" for what it is.....empty promises from an addict who's desperate to have his enabler back so he doesn't have to seek recovery. They'll get real creative with those promises...addicts are very resourceful manipulators...take care.
Hugs, prayers, wisdom and strength to you, your kids, and your AH.
GL
Congratulations for doing what was right -- and for recognizing the "promise you the moon" for what it is.....empty promises from an addict who's desperate to have his enabler back so he doesn't have to seek recovery. They'll get real creative with those promises...addicts are very resourceful manipulators...take care.
Hugs, prayers, wisdom and strength to you, your kids, and your AH.
GL
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Just wanted to add my congrats to the others...because doing the right thing can be very hard in the beginning.......but if you stick to your boundaries, have as little contact as possible....who knows by the end of 6 months, you may like your peaceful life so much, you may not want to go back, whether he is sober or not.....
Wishing you a healthy, peaceful journey to recovery.....
Wishing you a healthy, peaceful journey to recovery.....
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I should have listened to the little contact. which I did at first then I talked to him..
I feel so bad..But, I know I am doing the right thing... spoke to hos mom this morning. SHe had left a message for him. She wants to have him picked up... But jail is not rehab. I have to let her do what she feel she needs to though. He told me crying of course he didnt want to lose his family. I just told him that was his choice. Be sober and we can work on everything ele. So I will see.. but, I refuse to let him come around us on drugs... I have lived my last days like that.
Thanks for listening...
I feel so bad..But, I know I am doing the right thing... spoke to hos mom this morning. SHe had left a message for him. She wants to have him picked up... But jail is not rehab. I have to let her do what she feel she needs to though. He told me crying of course he didnt want to lose his family. I just told him that was his choice. Be sober and we can work on everything ele. So I will see.. but, I refuse to let him come around us on drugs... I have lived my last days like that.
Thanks for listening...
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you do not have anything to feel guilty for. you are taking care of yourself & your children. i am glad you got the house, now you can have the peace you deserve. prayers for u, the girls & your husband.
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