Very afraid
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Very afraid
I am new to this message board and still scared with new steps I am taking.
From a dysfunctional family and have been working on: letting go of them, my co- dependency issues, self esteem...
The more I unwind things about myself the scarier it gets. Is that normal? I want to run back to my family at times - even though I know it is unhealthy. Do we ever get past the point of trying to proof ourselves to others?
Thanks!
From a dysfunctional family and have been working on: letting go of them, my co- dependency issues, self esteem...
The more I unwind things about myself the scarier it gets. Is that normal? I want to run back to my family at times - even though I know it is unhealthy. Do we ever get past the point of trying to proof ourselves to others?
Thanks!
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Welcome awakening, glad you're here. Have you tried Codependants Anonymous meetings? A very cool program IMO, even for an alcoholic like me;-) Embracing a 12-Step program of recovery has shown me that I'm accountable for my actions, the only thing I need to prove to others is my willingness to clean up my own wreckage. Yes, at times it's scary, but I have faith in a higher power and the support of the Fellowship of AA to see me through the difficult times.
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nice to meet you, awakening. my daughter is an alcoholic/addict - she's been in/out of recovery since last fall. i go to alanon and counseling - both help me.
so does the serenity prayer -
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
blessings, and keep posting - k
so does the serenity prayer -
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
blessings, and keep posting - k
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Astro - thank you for your response. I use to go to CODA and Alanon - I have been working with a counselor - which has helped. But I get confused and lonely when I take steps forward - because I feel no one in my family wants to hear me.
Do we ever get over this hurdle and feel ok because we are doing new steps for ourselves?
Do we ever get over this hurdle and feel ok because we are doing new steps for ourselves?
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Originally Posted by awakeningnow 
I use to go to CODA and Alanon - I have been working with a counselor - which has helped. But I get confused and lonely when I take steps forward - because I feel no one in my family wants to hear me.
Do we ever get over this hurdle and feel ok because we are doing new steps for ourselves?
Do we ever get over this hurdle and feel ok because we are doing new steps for ourselves?
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