TOPIC: ....And When We Were Wrong We Promptly Admitted it.
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TOPIC: ....And When We Were Wrong We Promptly Admitted it.
Hi my name is hare on and Im an alcoholic.
By the Grace of my HP and people like you here
in SR I havent had a drink of alcohol since
8-11-90.
For that and you I am truely grateful.
The principles of our program guide
us thru recovery helping us make
wrong the rights of our past behaviors.
To help us grow and change into useful
members in society. To help us maintaine
healthier relationships not only with
our selves, but with others.
I know for myself I am one without
fault, flaws,,,,i have done enough damage
and destruction to others and myself due
to my disease of alcoholism.
Today with a few number of days sober
i still remain teachable. To continue to
grow and mature in recovery.
I know i have done many wrongs
in my life time and as time goes on
I am learning to acknowledge them
and make them right.
For example....in a marriage we take
vows to one another to be true, honest,
faithful and so on till death due u part.
While drinking....some of us veered off the
path and became unfaithful. When we
become sober, do we admit to the other
our wrongs? Or to practice the principles
that has been described to us....admitting
but not in a way to cause harm to
another.
Do we remain in a relationship knowing
fully well that we wrong and dishonest?
Do we get out of it knowing we can never
be honest because its not in our nature
to do so....?
Isnt it better to separate honestly that
to go on hurting another.
If u cant be honest in a relationship or
marriage then get out of it....instead
of being dishonest....
Isnt that what our HP would want us
to do?
Thanks for letting me share.
By the Grace of my HP and people like you here
in SR I havent had a drink of alcohol since
8-11-90.
For that and you I am truely grateful.
The principles of our program guide
us thru recovery helping us make
wrong the rights of our past behaviors.
To help us grow and change into useful
members in society. To help us maintaine
healthier relationships not only with
our selves, but with others.
I know for myself I am one without
fault, flaws,,,,i have done enough damage
and destruction to others and myself due
to my disease of alcoholism.
Today with a few number of days sober
i still remain teachable. To continue to
grow and mature in recovery.
I know i have done many wrongs
in my life time and as time goes on
I am learning to acknowledge them
and make them right.
For example....in a marriage we take
vows to one another to be true, honest,
faithful and so on till death due u part.
While drinking....some of us veered off the
path and became unfaithful. When we
become sober, do we admit to the other
our wrongs? Or to practice the principles
that has been described to us....admitting
but not in a way to cause harm to
another.
Do we remain in a relationship knowing
fully well that we wrong and dishonest?
Do we get out of it knowing we can never
be honest because its not in our nature
to do so....?
Isnt it better to separate honestly that
to go on hurting another.
If u cant be honest in a relationship or
marriage then get out of it....instead
of being dishonest....
Isnt that what our HP would want us
to do?
Thanks for letting me share.
JUST DO IT!!
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Boy you have a lot of questions there 
For me, I was unfaithful also, and yes I did admit it to my spouse. I am not sure if that was the right thing to do or not, but at the time I felt as if it was. Now we are divorced, she has moved on since before we got divorced. I have been in like a few relationships since 2002 when I found the Program. I have had my relapses and most of them has been when I have gotten into a relationship.
My little feelers get hurt, but mostly I am a very jealous person I guess. I have recently moved and where I now live there is a lot of active addiction all around me. This place is a huge apartment complex. I have had several women already come up to me, and of course they started conversation. I however was immediately attracted to one. They know that I am in recovery, but yet I told them I am no where wanting any involvement. One said how about sex! Well that really ran quick in my mind and I said not today!
I guess I am protecting my clean time. I need to for I don't want to ever have to return to the disease that I was in.
So I guess being honest with myself is a huge step for me. I have found that I know that trigger, and it all goes back to childhood when I was sexually abused by two of my sisters. When one said that I wasn't good enough, that played a vital roll in me doing my dope, because dope made me more than good enough. Well I have
enough.
For me, I was unfaithful also, and yes I did admit it to my spouse. I am not sure if that was the right thing to do or not, but at the time I felt as if it was. Now we are divorced, she has moved on since before we got divorced. I have been in like a few relationships since 2002 when I found the Program. I have had my relapses and most of them has been when I have gotten into a relationship.
My little feelers get hurt, but mostly I am a very jealous person I guess. I have recently moved and where I now live there is a lot of active addiction all around me. This place is a huge apartment complex. I have had several women already come up to me, and of course they started conversation. I however was immediately attracted to one. They know that I am in recovery, but yet I told them I am no where wanting any involvement. One said how about sex! Well that really ran quick in my mind and I said not today!
I guess I am protecting my clean time. I need to for I don't want to ever have to return to the disease that I was in.
So I guess being honest with myself is a huge step for me. I have found that I know that trigger, and it all goes back to childhood when I was sexually abused by two of my sisters. When one said that I wasn't good enough, that played a vital roll in me doing my dope, because dope made me more than good enough. Well I have
enough.
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Thanks Vic for ur share....i was starting to think everyone here
is an "angel" Are maybe we r not saints? When we drink we r
under the enfluence and while we are under the influence we
do off the wall things...not so normal things....
How many people did we trick, decieve...lie to....pull the wool over?
To cover up our wrongs.....
Then we get sober.....soon we emmediately start working the
steps and make a list of those people we harmed during our
drinking or using.....Did u run quickly to tell them ur sorry...or
where there things so far in the past that maybe these people
arent around any longer....
I know ive had a few of those...how was i suppose to make
amends for something i stole, if the company no longer exists....
hmmmm....
Make a list....make ur amends on paper and with the
miracles of recovery, we no longer have to repeat
such behaviors again.
Relationships....make ur amends eventually...in speaking the
truth from the heart....and honestly mean what u say...more
than likely there will be forgiveness on the other end.
If not....u have done ur part....honestly....accept it and move on...
We hopefully learn from past behaviors and try not to repeat
them....
Today i remain teachable.
is an "angel"
Are maybe we r not saints? When we drink we runder the enfluence and while we are under the influence we
do off the wall things...not so normal things....
How many people did we trick, decieve...lie to....pull the wool over?
To cover up our wrongs.....
Then we get sober.....soon we emmediately start working the
steps and make a list of those people we harmed during our
drinking or using.....Did u run quickly to tell them ur sorry...or
where there things so far in the past that maybe these people
arent around any longer....
I know ive had a few of those...how was i suppose to make
amends for something i stole, if the company no longer exists....
hmmmm....
Make a list....make ur amends on paper and with the
miracles of recovery, we no longer have to repeat
such behaviors again.
Relationships....make ur amends eventually...in speaking the
truth from the heart....and honestly mean what u say...more
than likely there will be forgiveness on the other end.
If not....u have done ur part....honestly....accept it and move on...
We hopefully learn from past behaviors and try not to repeat
them....
Today i remain teachable.
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