respektingme

I told him I don't want a relationship with his mother. She is coming this weekend. I told him not to include me in their plans. I told him I wasn't going to discuss it anymore. I can't control him or her, so I'm not going to forbid her untimely visit. However, he can not control me either.

Yet today, he asked what activities I would suggest so that we'd all be happy. WHAT??? What a dumb@ss. I repeated my stance. Then he asked if I would be going to church with them. I said no again. He was astounded! He asked if I'm working my steps. Said, "Wow, I can't believe you won't go to church with us."

As IF I am the devil (his mother actually told my stepdaughters I am a devil) because I don't go with them.

He doesn't care if I go or not. He cares what his mommy thinks. Because some Sundays, I just don't feel like going and he takes the kids. But mommy is coming, and she'll frown. Awwwwww.

She should have just castrated him when she gave birth.

minnie

Not clueless*, just hard into his patterning.

You do what is confortable for you and let the chips fall where they may.






*well, possibly. As in unaware.

LGLG07

my ah used to do this to me ....

he would always be shocked when I refused to do what he wanted me to do and then stood my ground .

Just like you going to church with them .. if I told ah I wasnt going , he wouldnt have believed me , he would then tell me I WAS going , but I would tell him no again . He wouldnt actually believe me until he got into the car without me and drove away ..

He just was not / is not used to me standing up for myself .. sounds like your ah isnt either ... I say we both keep standing !! LOL