paige n

My husband, who I am separated from and lives 4 hours away, has been on another drinking binge this past week. Talked to him last night and he says he's finally surrendering (yeah, right) and he's quitting for good. How many times have I heard that one?? It just pisses me off. Does he think I'm stupid and he can just continue to walk all over me?

He just called and said he's going to be about 2 hours away for his work and wants to come see me and the kids tonight and leave in the morning. I really have no desire to see him. He said he's ready to start earning his trust again. He just stopped the binge yesterday!! Man I am so mad that he thinks he can do this and then turn around and think I'll trust him again. So, do I allow him to come to see the kids??? We're in the middle of the legal separation so I don't want him to say I didn't give him the chance to see them but on the other hand I don't want to be near him.

Any thoughts anyone??
PN

myah

hmm...

suggestion:
"Fred", I don't feel comfortable seeing you right now
I don't want to keep you from your children but it's
important that your " healthy" when you spend time with
them.. so you keep working on yourself and we can
arrange something if and, or, when you are closer
to standing on solid ground.... you take care now "Fred"
I'm off to my Al-Anon meeting.

** I doubt your husbands name is " fred " but
it'll work for now}

good luck!

EmotionalMeg

Hi Paige n,
I am thinking that as far as YOUR recovery and peace of mind goes, you have evry right to say NO. The fact that you denied him visitation on this occasion will probably not effect the "legal" seperation in the end... after all, he has only been sober a couple of days.
However, If you can be strong, and NOT react to him, and NOT get pulled in... maybe seeing his kids would be a good thing for HIM.
Take care
Meg