Trying to figure all this out.
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Trying to figure all this out.
I have been reading through all the posts trying to figure out how to start doing all the steps. First question is, what if I dont have a higher power?
Second is, so many of you speak of your 'a' being in a program or going to aa, how did you get them to do that? Mine doesnt even think he has a problem.
Second is, so many of you speak of your 'a' being in a program or going to aa, how did you get them to do that? Mine doesnt even think he has a problem.
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Rosedreamer Hi, and welcome
First of all you have to start wuth step one, We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, and that our lives have become umangeable.
My son is an A, and at the moment he has just come out of the prison cells, and was up in court on Sat morning, he has no money, nowhere to live, and he has nothing left. I am sat here writing this knowing I am completely powerless over my son's life and his decisions.
It is so hard to accept, but I have tried everything in my power to help him, and nothing has worked. I have to let go and get on with my owm life, and that is hard enough, knowing he is out there in a mess.
Step one is the hardest step to do, but do it you must if you want to go on to the other steps.
And believe me you do have a Higher Power you just don't know it yet.
Love and hugs
Jewel
First of all you have to start wuth step one, We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, and that our lives have become umangeable.
My son is an A, and at the moment he has just come out of the prison cells, and was up in court on Sat morning, he has no money, nowhere to live, and he has nothing left. I am sat here writing this knowing I am completely powerless over my son's life and his decisions.
It is so hard to accept, but I have tried everything in my power to help him, and nothing has worked. I have to let go and get on with my owm life, and that is hard enough, knowing he is out there in a mess.
Step one is the hardest step to do, but do it you must if you want to go on to the other steps.
And believe me you do have a Higher Power you just don't know it yet.
Love and hugs
Jewel
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Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: Ohio
Posts: 444
Rosedreamer:
Good questions! I like Jewel's reply--that you have an HP, you just don't know it yet!
I'll share mine with you, if you like.
As far as getting your husband to a meeting, I would say that's a decision he has to make. Mine doesn't believe he has a problem yet, either--thinks it's all me! Or I should say, he tries to put the blame on me--not happening!
The best thing to do, is take care of you. You can't change him, but you can change you, and how you react to him.
Take care,
Lyn
Good questions! I like Jewel's reply--that you have an HP, you just don't know it yet!
I'll share mine with you, if you like.As far as getting your husband to a meeting, I would say that's a decision he has to make. Mine doesn't believe he has a problem yet, either--thinks it's all me! Or I should say, he tries to put the blame on me--not happening!
The best thing to do, is take care of you. You can't change him, but you can change you, and how you react to him.
Take care,
Lyn
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Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: Reading, PA
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Hello Rosedreamer...
When I first tried to figure out the steps it was not very easy for me...but when I finally stoped making it MY problem, it all fell into place.
Your higher power could be anything or anyone you want it to be. Learning to let go is hard but your HP can be your strength.
This place is wonderful, you will find everyone feels similar to you and all our situations are as well.
You have to start focusing on you.
As for your husbend, you cannot make him change, go to a meeting or seek help, he has to want that for himself.
Be good to you
Many huggs!!!
Steph
When I first tried to figure out the steps it was not very easy for me...but when I finally stoped making it MY problem, it all fell into place.
Your higher power could be anything or anyone you want it to be. Learning to let go is hard but your HP can be your strength.
This place is wonderful, you will find everyone feels similar to you and all our situations are as well.
You have to start focusing on you.
As for your husbend, you cannot make him change, go to a meeting or seek help, he has to want that for himself.
Be good to you
Many huggs!!!
Steph
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