My family is distancing themselves!!
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Join Date: Mar 2007
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My family is distancing themselves!!
You all know how much I love those babies!!! My little cousins that bring me so much joy.
Well my relapse has been hell. I cant remember how long it has been even during my active drug use that I stayed up 6 days. I seen the ugly of the ugly. MAn I thought I seen it all. I have never been around opiate users before. But thtas all I was around this time. I didnt indulge myself. But I saw what I dont want to be. And thta is freakin sick!
Holy crap!!! I didnt know a drug could make you feel like that. Alll the moaning and sweating and aching and crying. It was horrible. And I saw how fast the releif took over after one little shot of this Crap. Oh mY..I am so glad I never took my addiction to those levels.
I have a whole new feeling toward opiates now.
Anyway..Back to my family. My cousin says she will be disatnceing herself and her family from me. My grams has to babysit at my aunts and none of the kids are allowed around me. I think that sux.
I dotn think it needs to go that far.
She says she doesnt know what i am capable of. I just want to scream.!!!!
I would NEVER hurt anyone in my family let LONRE THOSE KIDS. i UNDERSTAND WHERE SHES COMING FROM. bUT TO INSINUATE THAT i WOULD HARM THE KIDS IS f******* RIDICULOUS!!!
Well my relapse has been hell. I cant remember how long it has been even during my active drug use that I stayed up 6 days. I seen the ugly of the ugly. MAn I thought I seen it all. I have never been around opiate users before. But thtas all I was around this time. I didnt indulge myself. But I saw what I dont want to be. And thta is freakin sick!
Holy crap!!! I didnt know a drug could make you feel like that. Alll the moaning and sweating and aching and crying. It was horrible. And I saw how fast the releif took over after one little shot of this Crap. Oh mY..I am so glad I never took my addiction to those levels.
I have a whole new feeling toward opiates now.
Anyway..Back to my family. My cousin says she will be disatnceing herself and her family from me. My grams has to babysit at my aunts and none of the kids are allowed around me. I think that sux.
I dotn think it needs to go that far.
She says she doesnt know what i am capable of. I just want to scream.!!!!
I would NEVER hurt anyone in my family let LONRE THOSE KIDS. i UNDERSTAND WHERE SHES COMING FROM. bUT TO INSINUATE THAT i WOULD HARM THE KIDS IS f******* RIDICULOUS!!!
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I'm sorry Chiy, but...........until you get some sobriety, it's to be expected.
Get youself some clean time, they'll come around. Until then, there's nothing you can do. The word powerless comes to mind....
Get youself some clean time, they'll come around. Until then, there's nothing you can do. The word powerless comes to mind....
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Join Date: Mar 2005
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Chiy,
I'm so sorry to hear what your going through. I know how hurtful it can be. Once you show them the strong, wonderful person you are and how you have so much love to offer, they will come back. Hang in there and take care of yourself and they will soon see that in you.
Theresa
I'm so sorry to hear what your going through. I know how hurtful it can be. Once you show them the strong, wonderful person you are and how you have so much love to offer, they will come back. Hang in there and take care of yourself and they will soon see that in you.
Theresa
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern California
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Chiy...
"Oh my..I am so glad I never took my addiction to those levels."
Take a hard look at what has happened the last several months...please don't
go into denial of how your addictions and actions have affected and
frightened your family...they probably do not know what to think anymore.
You have been violent against yourself...that is a biggie...you nned to look
at the levels your addictions have actually taken you.
Denial is a hard thing to kick...but we must to stay in recovery.
You have a wonderful precious family that loves you..but they feel the
need to distance..and that is healthy for them. They must live thier lives
too, as normally as they can for the sake of those kids..give them some time.
You have all of our support here...
Love,
IO
"Oh my..I am so glad I never took my addiction to those levels."
Take a hard look at what has happened the last several months...please don't
go into denial of how your addictions and actions have affected and
frightened your family...they probably do not know what to think anymore.
You have been violent against yourself...that is a biggie...you nned to look
at the levels your addictions have actually taken you.
Denial is a hard thing to kick...but we must to stay in recovery.
You have a wonderful precious family that loves you..but they feel the
need to distance..and that is healthy for them. They must live thier lives
too, as normally as they can for the sake of those kids..give them some time.
You have all of our support here...
Love,
IO
everything is already ok
Join Date: May 2005
Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia
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my daughter had to keep away from me the last two years of my using and I fully understand now. I was dangerous and unpredictable. After some time passed in recovery she came back on her own and we are very close again.
Focus on your recovery not the external things. Get well first and then things will start to fall into place not the other way around.
Kevin
Focus on your recovery not the external things. Get well first and then things will start to fall into place not the other way around.
Kevin
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Chiy,
So sorry to hear that. The other posters above do have valid points, even if they're not what you want to hear right now. Trust can be a very fragile thing, and once broken, will take time to repair.
Let some time pass. Then maybe start off small, like perhaps a phone call, or maybe meet your cousin and her kids for some ice cream or walk in the park.
Things have a way of working out. It just takes time, and time is something none of us can rush.
All my best!
BHJ
So sorry to hear that. The other posters above do have valid points, even if they're not what you want to hear right now. Trust can be a very fragile thing, and once broken, will take time to repair.
Let some time pass. Then maybe start off small, like perhaps a phone call, or maybe meet your cousin and her kids for some ice cream or walk in the park.
Things have a way of working out. It just takes time, and time is something none of us can rush.
All my best!
BHJ
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I know where she is coming from. And I dont blame her. But those kids are what gets me through the day sometimes.
I never thought it would come to this. My grams will always be there no matter what.
But I need those kids to give me strength. I am just gonna keep my mouth shut and do what I gotta do and let it ride.
And its a little hard to not be around each other when we all live on the same block.
I never thought it would come to this. My grams will always be there no matter what.
But I need those kids to give me strength. I am just gonna keep my mouth shut and do what I gotta do and let it ride.
And its a little hard to not be around each other when we all live on the same block.
get it, give it, grow in it
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BECOME THE FABULOUS aunt that you want to be. You know that you lose things due to addiction. This is your cousin's bottom line/boundary with you. Do what you need to do to have the relationship.
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Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Southern California
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I didn't intend to be mean to you Chiy..you know I care...
Maybe a short visit with the parents present could be arranged?
It's up to you...
let us know what happens..
And don't you give up on you!
Love ya,
Sherry
Maybe a short visit with the parents present could be arranged?
It's up to you...
let us know what happens..
And don't you give up on you!
Love ya,
Sherry
No more merlot, more mamma
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Hills, Ct
Posts: 2,139
I'm sorry that you won't be able to see the kids, but honestly wouldn't you do the same thing if they were your kids, so soon after your last relapse?
I sincerely hope that you can get back on your feet and find the strength to kick this..
Karen
I sincerely hope that you can get back on your feet and find the strength to kick this..
Karen
Carpe Diem
Join Date: Jun 2007
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As an opiate addict myself, I know what you saw can be disturbing, to say the least. If someone saw me near my bottom moaning and sweating and shooting, I would be embarrassed too. But it doesn't matter what lengths opiate addicts go to in particular, this disease makes us all do things that are embarrassing and dehumanizing. At any rate, I am sure you can relate to them in some way even though I don't know your story.
My family distanced themselves from me until I had a little clean time. Or at least until I was serious about recovery and what I had to do to get it. I hope that your family sees it that way too. Good luck!
My family distanced themselves from me until I had a little clean time. Or at least until I was serious about recovery and what I had to do to get it. I hope that your family sees it that way too. Good luck!
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