This is the second time in the past few days....
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This is the second time in the past few days....
....that one of my clients has said 'thank you' by handing me a bottle of wine.
I truly hadn't been aware of how socially acceptable/common this is-until recently.
I hate it.I know it's a nice gesture on their part-but they have no idea what it means for me-having to deal with it.I've been having a good day(eaten way too much chocolate-but that's okay) but this really throws me a bit.I have no alcohol in our house since I decided to stop drinking.My husband doesn't drink so that's a huge help.
My neighbour drinks-so I took the bottle of wine over to her house and left it on her doorstep as she isn't home yet.There's a voice in the back of my mind going-'you could always go and retrieve it-she won't know' and another one saying 'She's going to start asking questions about why you're giving away so much wine lately-and won't you look bad?She'd never believe you were an alcoholic-so why make it such a big deal.Maybe you're not?'.....etc etc etc.
I know it's BS.I haven't craved at all today-and I still don't want to have a drink.I just hate these thoughts.When do they stop?It's just wearying.
I refuse to give in-I hated myself after my last relapse.I just.....I don't know.
Just someone tell me it's going to be okay(and if you can stop people giving me bottles of wine-I'd be very grateful also-lol)
Rose xox
I truly hadn't been aware of how socially acceptable/common this is-until recently.
I hate it.I know it's a nice gesture on their part-but they have no idea what it means for me-having to deal with it.I've been having a good day(eaten way too much chocolate-but that's okay) but this really throws me a bit.I have no alcohol in our house since I decided to stop drinking.My husband doesn't drink so that's a huge help.
My neighbour drinks-so I took the bottle of wine over to her house and left it on her doorstep as she isn't home yet.There's a voice in the back of my mind going-'you could always go and retrieve it-she won't know' and another one saying 'She's going to start asking questions about why you're giving away so much wine lately-and won't you look bad?She'd never believe you were an alcoholic-so why make it such a big deal.Maybe you're not?'.....etc etc etc.
I know it's BS.I haven't craved at all today-and I still don't want to have a drink.I just hate these thoughts.When do they stop?It's just wearying.
I refuse to give in-I hated myself after my last relapse.I just.....I don't know.
Just someone tell me it's going to be okay(and if you can stop people giving me bottles of wine-I'd be very grateful also-lol)
Rose xox
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Well ..I say that is great you can do that.
If your neighbor wonders why your giving her all this wine..Just say they are given to you and you decided to spread the love.
That's not really lieing ..right?
And you still look good.
You can do it. And looks to me like it is stopping. Slowly maybe but it is.
Your doing great!!!
Rosey hugs for Rose.
If your neighbor wonders why your giving her all this wine..Just say they are given to you and you decided to spread the love.
That's not really lieing ..right?
And you still look good.
You can do it. And looks to me like it is stopping. Slowly maybe but it is.
Your doing great!!!
Rosey hugs for Rose.
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Hey Rose ooh i feel for you. luckily that hasnt happened to me tho I have a tendency to tell anybody that Im a alkie, I have always being able to tell people about my self easily I dont know why I think its nerves/lack of self esteem etc. Im stressing about christmas as My parents drink my brother drinks and my sister drinks so they are going to be merry and I will be as miserable as :0(. prehaps when you get offered some wine say oh thats a lovely thought but I dont drink wine or something along those lines??
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Originally Posted by Rose62 
liveweyered-LOL
Ang-thanks-I have yet to tell many people I know.I'm way too proud for my own good(I know-what a surprise!)
Dee-your inbox is full!
Rose xox
Ang-thanks-I have yet to tell many people I know.I'm way too proud for my own good(I know-what a surprise!)
Dee-your inbox is full!
Rose xox
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Hey Storm,
I did think about pouring it down the drain-but in all honesty-I was too scared to open it.If I opened it?I might be tempted to drink it.Just too hard.Better to give it away for now.
Anyway-I'm just glad its gone and thankful for the support I get here to help me choose to do the right thing.
Dee-LOL.No worries.
Rose xox
I did think about pouring it down the drain-but in all honesty-I was too scared to open it.If I opened it?I might be tempted to drink it.Just too hard.Better to give it away for now.
Anyway-I'm just glad its gone and thankful for the support I get here to help me choose to do the right thing.
Dee-LOL.No worries.
Rose xox
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Hi Rose - I am so proud of you honey. Just tell the neighbour you stopped drinking. If she asks why just say you wanted to. If she doesnt understand that then maybe you should ask her whether or not she has considered stopping... hehe.
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Reminds me of what happened to a friend, years ago, in her first month of sobriety:
Her young daughter comes running in the house yelling, "Mommy, come look!" so she thinks it's a grasshopper or a pretty rock or something. So she accompanies her daughter outside and sees a hot air balloon landing on their large property! The balloon lands, the occupants disembark, and hand my friend a bottle of champagne! I guess this is what they do when they land.
She had been avoiding people, places and things, just like she was taught. Turns out the booze found her - and she gave it away, too. Funny, though!
Her young daughter comes running in the house yelling, "Mommy, come look!" so she thinks it's a grasshopper or a pretty rock or something. So she accompanies her daughter outside and sees a hot air balloon landing on their large property! The balloon lands, the occupants disembark, and hand my friend a bottle of champagne! I guess this is what they do when they land.
She had been avoiding people, places and things, just like she was taught. Turns out the booze found her - and she gave it away, too. Funny, though!
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I agree with what Pilgrim said. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to or needing to give it away. I don't think you need to explain yourself unless you wanted to. It sounds like you were pretty strong. Congratulations!
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