let's talk about motives in the face of recovery
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Yes K I was taught early on that all addicts must question there motives pretty much on all levels of life. The reason for this is because our motives if any have always been selfish and self-centered. We always manipulated, arranged, organized things to suit us the best that we could. This is pretty much our life style. The reason that we have to get honest is to change those things.
It is a wonder that you brought this up because I was talking to a friend earlier from SR and I mentioned how it is hard for me to recognize what my true motives really are. I have been clean for over a year but it takes time to really realize why you are doing something or not. To get down to it (the root) of why we do what we do.
The only way is to not stop checking our motives. We must always check them to make sure that we are doing the right thing for the right reason. Character defects are sneaky to say the least. At least we have a program today that helps us each to work through them and to get down to the real motive behind it all.
Thanks for the topic
It is a wonder that you brought this up because I was talking to a friend earlier from SR and I mentioned how it is hard for me to recognize what my true motives really are. I have been clean for over a year but it takes time to really realize why you are doing something or not. To get down to it (the root) of why we do what we do.
The only way is to not stop checking our motives. We must always check them to make sure that we are doing the right thing for the right reason. Character defects are sneaky to say the least. At least we have a program today that helps us each to work through them and to get down to the real motive behind it all.
Thanks for the topic
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Join Date: Feb 2006
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Great topic, k!
I question my motives frequently, but sometimes I can overdo it, what with being codie and all that implies. Sometimes something I do or say....is just 'what it is' and nothing more. I've learned that for me, I need to balance things out because in my earlier recovery I was usually shocked or surprised, at the least, that _I_ had motives that weren't very productive for myself or others. Imagine that.
All that said...I still won't every just blindly trust that my recovery is complete and I'm okay!!! No way. I have to daily think about these things and keep myself on track.
I question my motives frequently, but sometimes I can overdo it, what with being codie and all that implies. Sometimes something I do or say....is just 'what it is' and nothing more. I've learned that for me, I need to balance things out because in my earlier recovery I was usually shocked or surprised, at the least, that _I_ had motives that weren't very productive for myself or others. Imagine that.
All that said...I still won't every just blindly trust that my recovery is complete and I'm okay!!! No way. I have to daily think about these things and keep myself on track.
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Join Date: Mar 2007
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Yes..Great topic.
I always question mine as well.
Because most of the time there isnt one when I get high.
Except for the simple fact thats what I have done for so long.
Maybe habit.
I am bored.
I dotnt know.
I guess I dont have any real negative motives.
Just is how its been for so many years for me.
Nothing ever drives me to get high negativly.
Maybe the excitement of it all.
Getting high is my release and time to unwind.
Thats about all I can think of at the moment.
Makes me feel like an idiot.
I am saddened by the ons who have had things in their lives druive them there. And then continue to do so because of more. Makes me feel like I dont belong in recovery at times.
Makes me feel unworthy to be in the presense of the ones with real issues.
I just got high because I like to. Bottom line.
Tried it once and that was that.
pretty sad really.
I always question mine as well.
Because most of the time there isnt one when I get high.
Except for the simple fact thats what I have done for so long.
Maybe habit.
I am bored.
I dotnt know.
I guess I dont have any real negative motives.
Just is how its been for so many years for me.
Nothing ever drives me to get high negativly.
Maybe the excitement of it all.
Getting high is my release and time to unwind.
Thats about all I can think of at the moment.
Makes me feel like an idiot.
I am saddened by the ons who have had things in their lives druive them there. And then continue to do so because of more. Makes me feel like I dont belong in recovery at times.
Makes me feel unworthy to be in the presense of the ones with real issues.
I just got high because I like to. Bottom line.
Tried it once and that was that.
pretty sad really.
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Murrieta, Ca
Posts: 2,683
I quit analyzing things a while ago. I'm trying to just do the next right thing and go with the flow.
I'm sober, I'm helping others get sober, my kids love me, and I'm advancing/rebounding in my career quickly.
I'm sober, I'm helping others get sober, my kids love me, and I'm advancing/rebounding in my career quickly.
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Posts: 12,136
My motives, initially, were to stop feeling like he** and to learn how to drink (I didn't understand the concept of abstinence at the time) in moderation.
Now that I am sober and practicing abstinence, my motives are simple - to be mentally, physically, and spirtually fit - a day at a time.
Now that I am sober and practicing abstinence, my motives are simple - to be mentally, physically, and spirtually fit - a day at a time.
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: anomaly
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In the face of adversity..i do.
i don't over anynilize it..becuase it's through working
the 4th and 5th that I learned not to be so damn hard
on myself..becuase it's that cunning or powerful. or
I'm my own worst critic or enemy.
fear use to motivate the hell out of me..but i'm more
willing these days after learning those lessons..lol
What works for me is..my HP had fill that big ass
emptiness inside of me..so I'm pretty peaceful inside
my own skin. So I'm not so desperate or have hinden
motives or alternitive motives..
What I question alot is ..what the heck my HP has in store
of me today..What is it am I suppose to learned
that i don't wanna learn..lmao
I'm a baby..
i can't handle a freanken thing and i trun everything over,
but sometime my HP wants me to do something or take
actions....i don't wanna..lol
I like it all cozi in the arms of god. All that unconditional
love. Well I'm a child of god...what do you expect..
So sometime my HP drops me on my head...lol
i don't over anynilize it..becuase it's through working
the 4th and 5th that I learned not to be so damn hard
on myself..becuase it's that cunning or powerful. or
I'm my own worst critic or enemy.
fear use to motivate the hell out of me..but i'm more
willing these days after learning those lessons..lol
What works for me is..my HP had fill that big ass
emptiness inside of me..so I'm pretty peaceful inside
my own skin. So I'm not so desperate or have hinden
motives or alternitive motives..
What I question alot is ..what the heck my HP has in store
of me today..What is it am I suppose to learned
that i don't wanna learn..lmao
I'm a baby..
i can't handle a freanken thing and i trun everything over,
but sometime my HP wants me to do something or take
actions....i don't wanna..lol
I like it all cozi in the arms of god. All that unconditional
love. Well I'm a child of god...what do you expect..
So sometime my HP drops me on my head...lol
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