Bravery

After taking a backseat with my mother's drinking yesterday, I came to work today feeling free of responsibilty toward her. Last night's conversation was like banging my head against a brick wall. It made me realise that I can try save her all I want but it really doesn't matter unless she wants to be saved. (I know, it's taken awhile to learn this basic step).


Anyway, I just recieved a call from her saying that she is taking herself to the doctors later.



*fingers crossed*

loveRoy

I was talking to my daughter last night. I told her that the only thing we can do for her dad is to stay detached. He will either sink or swim. It is tough. Stay busy. Keep posting and keep reading.

LGLG07

it is so hard but so freeing at the same time .. hard to explain that inner peace when you can truly detach and let go and let God .

Good for you , you should feel proud . Glad to hear moms going to the Dr , hope all goes well

Bravery

She's back drinking.

She had a huge row with her brother who I had to call to help.

I feel I've made things worse.

*cries*

loveRoy

I blamed myself when AH would drink. If only I had not said this, if only I had not done that. They are going to do what they are going to do. We can't stop them. My AH, when sober, would always tell me that if people want to drink, any excuse will do. Stay strong; it is not your fault.

Bravery

May be I should have let her be and not called anyone.

She was sitting there drinking on the sly and was going to drive afterwards.

I had to call someone.

I feel like I've just made it worse.

My head is in such a bad place right now.

Thank God I never started drinking otherwise I'd be sitting in a pub right now.

loveRoy

IMO, you did the right thing by stopping her from driving drunk. There was an earlier post about that subject. A child is dead and families are destroyed. I too am glad you are not at the pub.

hopeangel

i honestly don't know what to say, except, i'm sorry. i can't imagine having a mother that drinks, so i can't offer advice

except -don't blame yourself. we didn't cause it. we can't control it and we can't cure it.

i think the very best thing you can do for your mother is live the very best life you can- in order to do that you have to free yourself from her drinking and release yourself from responsiblity. you need to be free to live the very best life you can.

take care, and praying for your mom.