Dealing with sick people in AA
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Chicago
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Dealing with sick people in AA
so ive been getting stalked by a former roommate at my recovery house for quite some time. he's 26 and is a chronic relapser who has basically spent the last 6 years halfhouse-hopping. i refused to answer his calls/texts because he isnt working a program (no sponsor, no steps, and his negative behavior/anger jeopardizes my sobriety). recently he started sending me hate messages for ignoring him. my sponsor advised me to tell him i couldnt associate with him because he wasnt working on anything. so i made the call today and explained to him me responding to him wouldnt help him...only sponsorship and step-work could bring him out of his misery/anger/self-hate. i told him i surround myself with people working programs to ensure my own sobriety. i may have taken it too far by stating that "he will be miserable every day for the rest of his life UNTIL HE WORKS A PROGRAM"..he got mad, said 'F you' and hung up. within minutes he sent me 3 hate texts but since then has sent only 1 and seems to have gotten the point. sometimes in sobriety i dont always want to do what my sponsor tells me, but i usually do. thank God i have my sponsor to guide me through this because there are alot of sick people in AA (including myself) and how i want to deal with them isnt always right and helpful. sorry for the long post, had to make 2 meetings today just to get back to normal. another sucessful day sober!
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Join Date: May 2005
Location: Melbourne Victoria Australia
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Hey chicago, sorry your having to deal with this, sounds like you handled it really well 
I came across 'doing what my sponsor tells me' today in my step work and then my sponsor rang and suggested I do a few things like talk to a newcomer and I will but was so aware of wanting to tell him to beep off! Oh the addict in me.
Good to be here with you and working a program of recovery so far aprat and yet its 'we'
We learn from every experience it seems.
Kevin
I came across 'doing what my sponsor tells me' today in my step work and then my sponsor rang and suggested I do a few things like talk to a newcomer and I will but was so aware of wanting to tell him to beep off! Oh the addict in me.
Good to be here with you and working a program of recovery so far aprat and yet its 'we'
We learn from every experience it seems.
Kevin
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Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended we said to ourselves, "This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done."
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Join Date: Dec 2005
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let go, and let god......
applies for me, to:
people, places and things that are:
out of our control
trigger us
bother us
don't behave right, etc....
good luck with this situation. sending you positive, healthy thoughts!
applies for me, to:
people, places and things that are:
out of our control
trigger us
bother us
don't behave right, etc....
good luck with this situation. sending you positive, healthy thoughts!
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Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: my room in ct.
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kk kk, you reminded me of a story...
this guy that was struggling was talking to a old timer... he said, i keep hearing..."stick with the winners"
the old timer said, "that really PO's me when i hear that... that implys your a looser... look at it this way the old timer said... "your just a slow winner"
ta ta...
just keep sticking with the winners
this guy that was struggling was talking to a old timer... he said, i keep hearing..."stick with the winners"
the old timer said, "that really PO's me when i hear that... that implys your a looser... look at it this way the old timer said... "your just a slow winner"
ta ta...
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