new life
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new life
I would like to introduce myself as im new to the forum
Infact.......... This is all new to me.............. I have been sober for two weeks
I had another episode a few weeks ago ended up with strangers till the early hours........................ leaving the people who love me wondering where I am
I drank the next day to forget (the little i could remember) what I had done the night before
I thought I need to stop drinking for a while............. but what about my cousins wedding, my friends birthday, the end of term party. I cant possible get through these things sober!!!
thats when it HIT me a person who cannot cope with social situations without a drink is an alchoholic
I looked back at the choices I had made and the situations I get into when drunk.
My excuse was bad things happened to me when I was young which is somewhat true
Guess what caused these bad things........... ALCHOHOL......... so what did I do to block the pain..........................I became a drunk!
Seems stupid if alchohol caused me to grow up in a violent and unstable home why would I turn to it to solve my problems?
So now I want to live a new life and try to help others too
And im sure my three year old son appreciates it when Mummy can play instead of having trouble lifting her head off the pillow!
really needed to talk as ive found it a stuggle tonight stressed from work and home alone as usual !!!!
Feel like crying cause of all the wasted time and the stupid things ive done
Saturdays would always be about the quickest way to justify a drink.......... now I feel free of that but its still hard. Its the wedding tomorrow but I know I can do it.
Tonights harder for some reason...................
good luck to everyone!
I would like advice on the time scale of things.
Like............. is there a pattern to recovery or is everyone different?
thanks
Infact.......... This is all new to me.............. I have been sober for two weeks
I had another episode a few weeks ago ended up with strangers till the early hours........................ leaving the people who love me wondering where I am
I drank the next day to forget (the little i could remember) what I had done the night before
I thought I need to stop drinking for a while............. but what about my cousins wedding, my friends birthday, the end of term party. I cant possible get through these things sober!!!
thats when it HIT me a person who cannot cope with social situations without a drink is an alchoholic
I looked back at the choices I had made and the situations I get into when drunk.
My excuse was bad things happened to me when I was young which is somewhat true
Guess what caused these bad things........... ALCHOHOL......... so what did I do to block the pain..........................I became a drunk!
Seems stupid if alchohol caused me to grow up in a violent and unstable home why would I turn to it to solve my problems?
So now I want to live a new life and try to help others too
And im sure my three year old son appreciates it when Mummy can play instead of having trouble lifting her head off the pillow!
really needed to talk as ive found it a stuggle tonight stressed from work and home alone as usual !!!!
Feel like crying cause of all the wasted time and the stupid things ive done
Saturdays would always be about the quickest way to justify a drink.......... now I feel free of that but its still hard. Its the wedding tomorrow but I know I can do it.
Tonights harder for some reason...................
good luck to everyone!
I would like advice on the time scale of things.
Like............. is there a pattern to recovery or is everyone different?
thanks
came-came to-came to believe
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: east coast
Posts: 1,116
Welcome back Temp-I can totally relate. I don't have much time either
however I can say that sobriety absolutely is possible, and so much better
than the alternative. If we don't drink we can't get drunk.
Keep posting!!!!!!!
however I can say that sobriety absolutely is possible, and so much better
than the alternative. If we don't drink we can't get drunk.
Keep posting!!!!!!!
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Join Date: Aug 2005
Location: wherever my feet take me
Posts: 1,314
Hi temperance Welcome to Sr.
As far as a pattern to recovery I wouold have to say from my experiences everyone is different.
Good luck to you as well.
Weddings or parties in general can be hard to get through sober.
If you can try to stick close to someone that is aware that you shouldnt be drinking, so that you are not alone.
2 weeks sober is fantastic, but drinking is very tepting when you are at a place where there is alot of drinking going on.
needing a drink while in social situations doesnt necessarily make you an alcoholic. It is the inability to stop drinking once you have started that seperates the alcoholic from social drinkers.
you can have social anxiety and not drink
You can also be a drinker and have no issues with social anxiety.
I wish you the best. Keep posting.
As far as a pattern to recovery I wouold have to say from my experiences everyone is different.
Good luck to you as well.
Weddings or parties in general can be hard to get through sober.
If you can try to stick close to someone that is aware that you shouldnt be drinking, so that you are not alone.
2 weeks sober is fantastic, but drinking is very tepting when you are at a place where there is alot of drinking going on.
needing a drink while in social situations doesnt necessarily make you an alcoholic. It is the inability to stop drinking once you have started that seperates the alcoholic from social drinkers.
you can have social anxiety and not drink
You can also be a drinker and have no issues with social anxiety.
I wish you the best. Keep posting.
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Fedup With This Vicious Cycle and Am Doing Something About It
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Welcome Temp!
I also can relate to your post in SO many ways. I grew up in a home that was very unstable and alcohol was a daily thing. I am also a mom to a 2 and 3 yr old. I have lost ALOT of friends because of my alcoholic ways and have done some similar things. It seems all to familiar and the hurt I have inside is eating me up. I hate it!
I am so glad that you have made it two weeks already without a drink!! Good for you and keep on going girl.
Did you quit on your own or are you attending meetings/rehab?
I just got off the phone with a counselor at a treatment facility I am hoping to admit myself into by next week. A little scared to the point of puking. Blaa!
I also can relate to your post in SO many ways. I grew up in a home that was very unstable and alcohol was a daily thing. I am also a mom to a 2 and 3 yr old. I have lost ALOT of friends because of my alcoholic ways and have done some similar things. It seems all to familiar and the hurt I have inside is eating me up. I hate it!
I am so glad that you have made it two weeks already without a drink!! Good for you and keep on going girl.
Did you quit on your own or are you attending meetings/rehab?
I just got off the phone with a counselor at a treatment facility I am hoping to admit myself into by next week. A little scared to the point of puking. Blaa!
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Join Date: Jun 2007
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Karim im answering you and you were mailing me!
one day at a time..................
something that has helped me recently is a poem/story about a king who wanted a phrase that would fit all situations........... all victories and all defeats
A wise man wrote on a piece of paper and handed it to the king
"This will come to pass"
Think of this in the hard times as they too will pass
and in the good times be aware that these times too will come to pass
so make the most of the positive things too
sorry if you heard that one before but its helped me recently
keep posting
The support I have already received has helped me to remain focused.
thank you so much
one day at a time..................
something that has helped me recently is a poem/story about a king who wanted a phrase that would fit all situations........... all victories and all defeats
A wise man wrote on a piece of paper and handed it to the king
"This will come to pass"
Think of this in the hard times as they too will pass
and in the good times be aware that these times too will come to pass
so make the most of the positive things too
sorry if you heard that one before but its helped me recently
keep posting
The support I have already received has helped me to remain focused.
thank you so much
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Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 11
support
thanks for all posts
yes its hard with young ones but my son gives me strength too
dont be scared to ask for help you are very brave and are making steps
The past is done
look to the future
By building solid foundations you can make sure its bright and sunny
good luck
let me know how you doing................x
yes its hard with young ones but my son gives me strength too
dont be scared to ask for help you are very brave and are making steps
The past is done
look to the future
By building solid foundations you can make sure its bright and sunny
good luck
let me know how you doing................x
Looking For Myself...Sober
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Where the heart is
Posts: 10,209
Hi and welcome.
Like above ...There is a world of support and info here.
Recovery i think is different for everyone. But basically I think The first part is the hardest and then after a month or 2 it gets hard again.
At least it did for me.
Funny thing about addiction. It creeps up on you at anytime.
I have seen people with years fall of.
It is frustrating. Thats why we have to make recovery a lifestyle.
But then I have seen some people just stop and never look back and be fine.
Like my dad. He was the biggest drunk when I was a kid. He just stopped one day went to AA for like a year and now he doesnt even smoke cigs. Being around alcohol doesnt bother him a bit and he never relapsed once.
It is a personal journey to recovery.
Everyone has their own path to being sober.
But we have each other and the same desire to be clean.
We need to be here for each other to pick each other up and help brush those knees off.
Thats what I think anyway.
I am at square one again as of 2 weeks ago.
Glad you are here.
Like above ...There is a world of support and info here.
Recovery i think is different for everyone. But basically I think The first part is the hardest and then after a month or 2 it gets hard again.
At least it did for me.
Funny thing about addiction. It creeps up on you at anytime.
I have seen people with years fall of.
It is frustrating. Thats why we have to make recovery a lifestyle.
But then I have seen some people just stop and never look back and be fine.
Like my dad. He was the biggest drunk when I was a kid. He just stopped one day went to AA for like a year and now he doesnt even smoke cigs. Being around alcohol doesnt bother him a bit and he never relapsed once.
It is a personal journey to recovery.
Everyone has their own path to being sober.
But we have each other and the same desire to be clean.
We need to be here for each other to pick each other up and help brush those knees off.
Thats what I think anyway.
I am at square one again as of 2 weeks ago.
Glad you are here.
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Join Date: Jun 2007
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sparkly
lovin the diamonds are made under pressure
gonna text that to a few folks right now!
Well done to your Dad I want to be as strong as that
My Dad had not had a drink for seven years but died suddenly of a heart attack a year ago. He had drunk heavily all his life and im sure he would swop it all (!) to spend one more week with us (especially his only grandchild who was only two years old at the time)
Come on folks who knows what exciting things the future holds...........I want to be able to enjoy everything for as long as possible and I want to remember every minute of it and feel every feeling and for that I gotta keep up with the sober plan
wow U guys rock!
gonna text that to a few folks right now!
Well done to your Dad I want to be as strong as that
My Dad had not had a drink for seven years but died suddenly of a heart attack a year ago. He had drunk heavily all his life and im sure he would swop it all (!) to spend one more week with us (especially his only grandchild who was only two years old at the time)
Come on folks who knows what exciting things the future holds...........I want to be able to enjoy everything for as long as possible and I want to remember every minute of it and feel every feeling and for that I gotta keep up with the sober plan
wow U guys rock!
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Hi Temperence,
Try not to be hard on yourself for what might have been. I know I fall into that trap too and it's just pointless. Use your energy and strength for today and living as well as you can.
Try not to be hard on yourself for what might have been. I know I fall into that trap too and it's just pointless. Use your energy and strength for today and living as well as you can.
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Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: portland oregon
Posts: 10
You have 2 more weeks than me!
Thank you for your help. It's 2pm now, and I had a beer at 7am (something about a really cold beer first thing in the morning- sounds sick when I write it down), but have led a useful life since then. We shall see if I can get through the evening without drinking and making my little family worry and getting nothing done and embarrassing my kids' friends and making my spouse think I am mentally ill. I have a great life- why do I want to dull the sword so?
Why do you?
Well, I haven't got 1 day yet and you have 2 weeks. What should I expect tomorrow? You get to be experienced for at least this new person.
I have no advice, since I don't know what I'm talking about, except maybe to find the drunkest fool at the wedding and observe closely. That might be me, but it won't be you. Nice work , 2 weeks sounds real good to me right now.
Why do you?
Well, I haven't got 1 day yet and you have 2 weeks. What should I expect tomorrow? You get to be experienced for at least this new person.
I have no advice, since I don't know what I'm talking about, except maybe to find the drunkest fool at the wedding and observe closely. That might be me, but it won't be you. Nice work , 2 weeks sounds real good to me right now.
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: FRIENDSWOOD, TEXAS
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i am back
I am new, but not so new. I stayed away cause went back to drinking, but my disease has progressed and has gotten worse , I have 4 beers left and after that my plan is to start taking the campral the doc prescribed to me several months ago. And I am kind of scared cause I am working now at a law firm and also got my driving privileges back which is a good thing, I am just afraid th withdrawals will interfere with my job or i will freak out at work but with the Campral I think it will be ok cause it controlled my withdraawals before, any comments or suggestions welcome, glad to be back, Needtobesober
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